My parents don't support my black clothes

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I only want to wear black clothes now because it makes me feel confident, also I only want to wear silver jewelry now and not gold. But, I don't have a lot of that stuff/color because I wasn't "into it" before. I tried getting my parents to take me for a cartilage piercing that I really want and some black clothes, but they think it is a phase and that I should buy it myself. The problem is I won't have a job for at least another 3 months because that's the time on the waiting list for my disabled program job center place. I don't have any degree, so I can't just find a job that easy. What should I do? Right now I'm just wearing the same things all the time that I like, and I leave the rest collecting in drawers.

I think you should ask your parents why they don't want you to have that stuff. If it's just because of the money, try to convince them that it's something you really desperately want (except if they don't have a job or something). But I'm sure there's other little jobs for teens. Maybe look it up on the internet. Also, what your parents mean by "it's just a phase" is that that's the style your into now. It's not your actual style because you would've always had it otherwise, and even though you might think it'll last forever, you'll get over it. I'm not defending they're point; just explaining. So then, it's good to experiment different styles when your a teen because it helps you know who you really are. So tell your parents that, if you want. Good luck!

I'm the exact opposite. I wear clothes in bright, wacky colors and patterns.

If I were in your position, it would provide me with an incentive to seek a job.

Maybe you could make a deal with your parents: promise go to college for one semester, take 2 courses, and stick it out. In exchange, your parents could buy you the black clothes.

Your parents don't want you to become dependent upon them. You're an intelligent person, and capable of getting a degree and (eventually) living independently.

Sell the clothes you don't wear, and use the money to buy clothes you like. You may have to look through thrift stores, but don't feel ashamed about it, they're there for a reason.

They're not actively prohibiting you from wearing them. They just don't want to pay for it when you already have clothes. Sounds reasonable to me. You should find a way to make some money.

Considered swishing or swappping?
No idea if there is anything in your area here's a link a quick google got me.
http://www.wisebread.com/5-websites-for ... r-wardrobe

Anyway, just an idea

alex commented on my post. that's so cool!

Around here there is cash to be had by shoveling snow or raking it off roofs!

I was thinking this morning that on the presumably Aspie side of my bloodline--all the women were good at sewing--one even did it professionally. And the one guy I knew was a medical lab technician.

This is not a good economy, not for young people nor really for anyone else. Okay, so the job market has always been a numbers game, it's now just much more of a numbers game than before.

Or, let's say you start an independent tutoring business. And charge $20 to $30 an hour which is actually a pretty good and pretty reasonable deal for the client. But with a couple of clients a week and traveling back and forth to a coffee shop and/or library, a person is not really going to make that much money for the amount of time he or she puts into the indy business. And a lot of independent businesses are kind of this way.

How about dyeing some of your clothes black? If you have something that fits you well and you like the style but not the colour, this would be a cheap way to keep some of your clothes until you can afford to get more.

It sounds more like to me they don't like the idea of you wearing black clothing, especially since they remarked that it was a "phase".

In my area "goths" and the like are frowned upon. I really don't know why. You can dress how you like in London, but elsewhere people give odd, or dirty looks. Yet it's perfectly OK to dress like Vicky Pollard, *cringe*.

You're 19, an adult. You can wear whatever you want.

If you cannot afford it and your parents wish that you buy clothes you want yourself (which is perfectly normal for parents to do...its a process to start weaning their offspring and teach financial responsibility..for its one thing to know about it and another to actually practice it, as you are now finding out!) then your choices are simple:

Come up with the money yourself.
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Postpone this need until you get your job.

To come up with money yourself you could probably see if you can sell some stuff you don't use anymore on e-bay (or to friends!) or see if your friends or relatives need some minor services done (depending on what you think you're up to it... babysitting or mowing the lawn or stuff like that).

If you postpone it until you get your job then think of it as a wonderful chance to shop around and find the best deals you can...and maybe even find better looking clothes and jewelry than the ones you originally wanted (for less hopefully!).