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Have you ever been bullied at school?
Yes 92%  92%  [ 95 ]
No 8%  8%  [ 8 ]
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29 Dec 2008, 6:25 pm

I'm a 12 (almost 13) years old and I have been the victim of being bullied at school if you have any advice for me on how to deal with this please post a message.



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29 Dec 2008, 6:27 pm

Ask how mum for a high-powered sniper



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29 Dec 2008, 6:30 pm

What's mum mean??? what's a high-powered snipper???



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29 Dec 2008, 6:43 pm

First, ignore Anicho. That's such a bad idea I'm not eve going to explain it to you.

It would be helpful if you'd give a few examples so we all know what you're dealing with. I'm sure somebody has been through the same thing.



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29 Dec 2008, 6:47 pm

Some examples are that people call me pirhana and shark face and they write notes about me in class and just typical stuff.



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29 Dec 2008, 6:49 pm

It's just immaturity. Bullies are just cowards with muscles.
Be smarter than them; turn jokes back on them, etc. Hard to say without knowing more.

Don't worry, in a year or two they'll be so captivated with girls that they won't have time to bother you.



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29 Dec 2008, 6:59 pm

'Ey, is that like that everybody is against you? like if you make something up and/or say something against them it's like there's 10ppl laughing and then making up something funny and annyoing about you?

if so, i'll understand you. pretty much same situation here, just try to get couple friends and just ignore the other guys. if you cant make any friends, like me at start, just ignore them and listen to music or something.



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29 Dec 2008, 7:01 pm

I agree with parkled. In middle school I was bullied constantly to the point where I snapped and violently assaulted one of the bullies. Take the high route. Ignore them and give them no incentive to continue harassing you. Be the better person.



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29 Dec 2008, 7:05 pm

Thank's 4 your help guys I appreciate.



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29 Dec 2008, 7:14 pm

If it is a serious thing tell your teacher that you are afraid and make sure that she documents the discussion. The next time a boy pushes you do not hesitate to kick him in the balls and then scream that he was being abusive. That will put an end to it once and for all.


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29 Dec 2008, 7:22 pm

It's not that serious I mean I tell the teacher and all and she handles it, but other than those boys @ school i'm really fine.



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29 Dec 2008, 7:41 pm

if u tell the teacher youll be giving them the attention they want. just ignore them, and theyll stop



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29 Dec 2008, 7:49 pm

But i've always been taught to tell the teacher plus there's a really strict assistant principal.



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29 Dec 2008, 7:56 pm

I recommend taking the high road and telling your teachers, counselors, and principal about it. If nothing is done, then explain that you will defend yourself if need be. Let your parents know as well. Make sure the bullying and teasing is reported and it is on the record so that you will have a defense should you have to take matters into your own hands. If the staff ridicules you or make you feel like an idiot for reporting it, then you might also send a letter to you local paper. Make sure people know that you tried to handle things peacefully. That way if and when you are forced to take action, you can lay the blame where it belongs.
IGNORING THE BULLIES OR TORMENTORS WILL NOT MAKE THEM STOP OR LESSEN THEIR HARASSMENT.

If you think you have any chance at all of winning a fight with one of them then go for it. You WILL VERY likely be suspended or get an equally severe punishment, so make it count. I recommend fighting dirty. That means scratching, biting throwing sand in the bully's face or whatever you have to do. If you catch him off guard and get sand or whatever in his eyes, follow up with more attack. MAKE IT COUNT so you will hopefully not have to put up with any more abuse.

If you cannot fight at all, and you know for sure you will be creamed, or if you fight, lose, and the abuse continues, then you will have to use sneaky methods of ridding yourself of the bullies. A quart milk jug filled partway with urine and a couple of raw eggs set up for a couple of weeks makes an awful gagging stinking mess. Try bringing a small nonmetal container of that into the place where the bullying is occuring and stealthily put a few drops on the seat of the bully's desk. Make sure you don't get caught or else the bully might make you sit there. Also do it in a place where it is very unlikely for an innocent person to get the mess on him or herself. If you don't make up your own stuff, a can of sardines can be easily purchase for about a couple of bucks, and the juice smells like rank body odor! A small container of real butter (not margarine or other similar spread or butter substitute) left out in the hot sun a week or two does not smell too nice (makes butyric acid). There are hundreds and thousands of Internet sites that specialize in revenge information.

If the bully is into stealing your food, consider lacing it with something like exlax, raw chicken juice, etc. Another trick is to switch out the bully's school work or in other covert ways of making him or her look like a total idiot. Another way to make them look like idiots is to beat them out on academic contests, spelling bees, grades, etc. Show them how dumb they really are WITHOUT RUBBING THEIR NOSES IN IT.

I grew up before the days of one on one aides, IEP's or any other help for autistic children, so needless to say, I was given special attention by most every kid in school, especially during middle school. I tried the route of ignoring them, but that never worked, The bullying continued until I snapped. A classic autie on the rampage is not a nice thing. I was threatened with punishment, but nothing happened to me that time. The bullying continued unfortunately, but not as near as frequently.

There are many here and in the world who are very appalled at how I suggest fighting back, but I believe that
it is better for you to take care of the problem and get a less severe punishment than it is to let it get to the point where you bring guns and go Columbine on these idiots or go into deep depression. Nobody deserves to be subjected to daily group torment, ridicule, and bullying.


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29 Dec 2008, 8:01 pm

You can agree with them too, that will deflect their aggression and confuse them. Like when they call you pirhana or shark face, agree with them. It's only words, so do you really care.



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29 Dec 2008, 8:01 pm

OK