friendships have expiration dates?

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I don't make friends easily to start with, but it feels like most of my friendships that do happen tend to slowly deteriorate until the relationship is either nonexistent or mutually harmful.

Anyone have similar experiences?

I've had a lot of friendships that have just trailed off, because we're not seeing each other anymore or just don't click anymore. It's sad, but it's normal.

For many people in my life (including my wife), "absence" does, indeed, "make the heart grow fonder."

I'm able to maintain acquaintanceships primarily because I don't see the people too often.

This has happened to me, due to those friends having other friends who they have known longer than me and are better friends than me because I don't make much of an effort because I'm shy =(

Yes, that or they outrigh betray you out of nowehere.

Friendships come and go, and it's unfortunate how few can be maintained.

Me and my best friend though, hopefully we'll be friends for life - we have been since 2009, 5th grade...

I began to notice, in my late teens, the apparent paradox that, while others seemed to reinforce their friendships with frequent contact, it seemed to work the opposite way with me: there was just so much contact with me others would tolerate and still look friendly, so I'd better keep the doses small.

Yes, now it's obvious, even to me, that I was the only common denominator, so the conclusion is that I just suck and shouldn't inconvenience people with my unwelcome presence. It's still a complete mystery to me what exactly I do wrong, however. Actually, it's painfully obvious how a lot of things I did when I was younger pissed people off, and I've since managed to avoid a lot of trouble by not doing them. The problem, though, is that my learning has only been negative: I've learned not to do a few things that would make others actively hostile, but my skills to make friends are still exactly zero, with my chances of ever improving in this regard rapidly fading as I grow too old to start doing what others master as little kids.

All of my friendships end, usually due to circumstances changing, but I'm so non committed and get bored of people, and often don't have the energy to meet up with people or reply to them, I don't really feel like I've ever found the right friends, and am hoping that when I start my new college I will find like minded people