Has anyone ever had "surprise-attack attraction"?

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Like, when you have known/known of someone for a long time, like months, and then one day you look at them, and... bam! Suddenly, you feel almost like you're physically being pulled towards them in lust.

I had an experience like that a few weeks ago. When I first saw him, I didn't think he was ugly, but he wasn't my type.

Then he literally said two words to me, (I had been calling to my brother, who shares his name, and he thought I was talking to him). And I felt like I was hit hard with attraction.

I felt like saying, "Not you, but...we can keep talking. "

Now I'm seriously into him... I don't know if he likes girls or is taken, on top of that, he's a senior, but that's not stopping my hormones*.

*Assuming I'm still wildly hormonal, being 17.

I've only spoken with one other person about this, who never experienced it. I suppose I just wonder what can make these feelings so sudden. I was in one of his classes, so I did kind of get his personality before, and my brother said he was cool, there was a lot to like about his personality. But somehow, those feelings came belatedly.

That's puberty and 'hormones' and such for ya.

A friend and I agreed crushes are random, irregular, spontaneous, irrational and falling under the ridiculous.

We agreed a crush can last 6 months, or 6 seconds.

It can be minor even after a long-time, it can be major in a short-time, etc.

My friend agreed she's had the feeling where she might instantly get a random crush on someone out of nowhere then a minute late not even be thinking about them again.

Surprise attack attractions happen to me but they are more rare.

I commonly on a random day start to develop stronger and stronger feelings throughout the day, and might spend 1-3 days trying to completely ignore and deny my feelings before always giving-in and admitting I've grown a crush.

The suprise attack however has happened to me, and even the opposite - talking to a girl I'm so attracted to and in-love with only to somehow instantly for all those feelings to go away and i only see her as a friend.

I got this with my ex-girlfriend but never told her, then a minute later started thinking hard and it came back again.

Ahhh, such is life...

I don't know what the evolutionary reason is behind being suddenly attracted to someone for five minutes. Sometimes the person in question isn't even that attractive.

I've being wildly crushing on people who one day I just don't care about... In fact, my crush life cycle is: Meet, wait a few months, crush, ignore your feelings, forget.

There's almost a post-crush phase where I feel nothing towards them, but still want them to be interested in me.