Do you think the guy I have a crush on is suitable for me?

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I have a crush on a guy my age who is about 6’4” (I’m about 5’2” or 5’3”). Although a defensive end and tight end for the high school football team, he is very different from most of the team members I have met with before. Unlike those guys, who are basically a bunch of jocks, this guy is friendly to people. He is also the only freshman I know who is not a misogynist. I’ve been discriminated against by a bunch of jock boys for my gender while playing flag football during phys ed, to which I never got to hold the ball. At least my crush actually passes the ball to both genders if he ever plays a ball game with them. Like me, he has above-average intellect conpared to most peers. He’s an all-around good guy to me. Maybe I’ll even ask him to help me with my math homework.

Bizarrely enough, I’ve heard a rumor that this freshman is attracted to Asian girls like myself despite being white. He probably knows that I’m Asian-American because I can speak and read American English fluently but can’t speak Vietnamese (because I’m Vietnamese). Apparently, this guy has dated an Asian girl I am somewhat familiar with but do not talk to because she is popular (I basically hate the popular clique and the people in it since I am always an “outcast” among them). He is neurotypical and may or may not know that I’m autistic.

I’ve had a weird feeling that the male freshman is actually interested in me like I am of him during math class (the only class I have with him). Although he usually sits diagonally in front and to the right of me, he sometimes moves. One of his friends sits more directly in my line of sight, so when the guy moved, I could see him without turning my head. This might have been a coincidence rather than an intention to stare at me. While we were taking notes (I had my head down and facing my paper so I couldn’t see him), I could see his head turned towards me out of the corner of my eye. I had no idea if he was staring at me directly or not, but it seemed like it. Weirded out but interested, I pretended not to notice. He did this for a full minute before stopping.

Is this freshman suitable for me? Leave your comments below!

If he does that staring thing again look at him and smile and then look away. Wait for a few beats and then look back and smile at him again. That should be the beginnings of a signal of interest from you.

He sounds nice.

Sure----he sounds alright, to me!!

Oh, I don't know - whenever cute nerdy girls get involved with football jocks, there's always the chance of some jealous IT or AV Lab guy invoking the Geek Curse. I won't tell you the whole horrible thing, but suffice to say it starts with a sociopath transferring to your school from out of town, involves an orgy of cow-tipping, and ends in a shower of bullets, gay porn and Perrier water. I wouldn't risk it.

I don’t know about that... If you’re being sarcastic, I totally understand you, but if you’re serious, then I don’t. I define a jock as a male version of a mean girl. They are handsome, athletic, snobby, and sometimes wealthy. Although this guy is handsome and intelligent, he is a very humble person unlike the other guys on the football team. Those guys are lazy and uncaring. This guy is NOT a jock.

I actually looked up signs that a guy is interested in you and some of these signs are prevalent. For example, it seems like he wants me to pay attention to him whenever I’m in math class. I had to move to the front of the classroom since I was sitting on the far-right of the classroom, where it is extremely difficult to see the board from (especially for a person like me who has to wear reading glasses to read small font 5-10 feet or farther). I ended up moving to my current desk position that I’m in. At my previous seat, I had NO idea if my crush was staring at me or not since he was so far to my left. I have a shadow aide to help me with social skills and emotional outbursts (i.e. meltdowns). I sit in my fifth period teacher’s classroom every lunch, and I left one day due to the obnoxious noises happening around me. My supervisor wants me to socialize by staying in that classroom for the whole lunch, possibly making my aide tell me that he entered and stayed in the classroom that day. I wasn’t fully convinced, but I started wondering if someone actually told him where I sit and if he was actually looking for me. Unfortunately for him, I was MIA.

Yes, I am a little overweight. But that was caused by GAD, depression, and boredom combined. And yes, I look somewhat like a nerd from the neck up due to having glasses and formerly braces. And yes, I have broad shoulders and muscular legs unlike those of other girls (from working out in martial arts class). And yes, I may be wearing a sleeveless blouse without spaghetti straps, short shorts that are neither denim nor torn, and a pair of Vans instead of tops with spaghetti straps, torn jeans, and Converse shoes, but my crush may very well find me attractive anyways. In fact, I think he actually likes some of these. I’m not sure if he gets disgusted looking at what the female freshmen wear like I do or simply likes the fact that I am modest.

This crush came with some downsides, however. The popular kids would always tease me about my romantic interest towards my crush, which I didn’t like because they thought I wasn’t being serious. I started having weird dreams about him, to which I did not like most of the time. My last dream about him involved me simply being in a casual, friendly relationship as if we were just close friends.

Most of the time, he inspires me. We were both part of the Friends of Rachel Club back in middle school, where he participated for three school years and I participated for two. He was one of the presidents of that club when I was in eighth grade, which I found amazing in him as a person. I knew from there that he was a very kind person inside like myself who had a considerably higher mental age than fellow boys. I felt that I was also more mature than a typical girl my age. I actually look up to my crush and consider him my role model, allowing me to mature significantly.

Weird story today. I was sitting at my usual spot outside for lunch at school, and my crush appeared. Normally, he does not sit in the area where I sit. He has his friends and seemingly planned to sit on the planter directly in front of me. However, it was covered with bird poop, so they moved to a spot about 50 feet away from me. I swear that neither of these were coincidental because I caught him looking in my direction at least once.

I hate to tell you this, but that sounds like a coincidence.

At least once sounds like a coincidence.

Just a little advice from someone 20 years older. Dialing back your self righteousness will go a long way to making friends.

You remind me of myself in high school.

I was clever and not fashionable and I thought that made me better than everyone else because it 'showed depth' and everyone else was just shallow.

I'd have had a much better time making friends if I'd just got to know people instead of judging them.

What's wrong with strappy tops if it's a warm day? In winter it would be insane, but on a warm day its appropriate. I'd never wear a strappy top to church or the office because I wouldn't feel it was smart enough, but for going about my day it's appropriate clothing.

Some of the strappy top girls could be quite clever and very nice. It's not kind to dismiss them all as disgusting.

Oh, I see...

Strange incident at school today! I was wandering around the science building at my school during lunch, surveying all of the people. I saw my crush with his friends in that same area. At some point, I gave up and went into the bathroom on my belief that I was on my period somehow. I wasn’t, and at some point when I exited, I suddenly saw my crush standing 50 feet away, plus his friends. We locked eyes for a moment, but this made me lose my train of thought. I panicked and ran back into the bathroom, which was close by. I was feeling quite distressed because of my social anxiety. When I got home, I looked up the true meaning of what I did. It turns out that I had just made myself look shy in front of my crush and that he actually could be interested in me. Eye contact, whether you’re neurotypical or not, is something that requires great courage to make. I went into a fit of giggling as a result of my findings.

Social success!

Hi guys, I’m going to take a break from posting anything for a while since nobody is responding to my posts. I will still be here at Wrong Planet, but I will not create new posts or reply until I see someone elses first. Thanks for cooperating.

I'm interested in your life. Please tell me more. It's odd to hear you're both athletic. Most aspies aren't. I know I'm not. This guy seems too plain, definitely not my type but hey I won't judge.

He’s not exactly run-of-the-mill. I would consider a stereotypical jock or skater to be too plain. He is neither.

And yes, I am somewhat athletic, training strenuously in my karate class once a week. I think it’s kind of cool how my crush’s brain is not soft like the other male freshmen.

You haven't exactly described any defining characteristics he has. That what I meant when I said plain.
You said "nice" and "handsome" but people can say that about anyone. Even people have said that about me even though I'm a waste of human life.
Give me a specific characteristic you like about him. If you can't come up with one you'd get bored within minutes.
Also I don't know what you mean by "soft brain". Please explain that as well.

He’s one of the smartest kids I know, getting 100 percent on tests or quizzes nobody else gets it in. He also won the American Legion School medal in 8th grade for outstanding performance. By “soft brain,” I mean that most boys I know are ignorant and immature, while my crush is not.