I don't mean to whinge, but...

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...these kids at school are driving me to the edge of sanity.

I'm not going to go into a massive rant about everything they're doing, I'm just going to ask: what exactly is the correct way to react to constant bullying?

I have no idea what to do, because now (unlike when I was younger) I have developed the thing that I'm sure bullies rely on to avoid getting caught: too much pride to just stand up and say "I am a victim of bullying". Sure, I can on WP. But at school, I know that any emotional reaction (past telling them to F off, which just gets me into trouble with teacher. Also an undesirable situation) will just lead to them making fun of me even more. In what way does showing them that they're hurting me make them stop? That's obviously what they want, otherwise why would they do it?

Telling the teacher wouldn't work. For one thing, I would feel like the lowest of the low if I resorted to telling. And there's nothing the teacher could possibly do about this, anyway. When people are just excluding me, making mean comments, etc, what can be done? The teacher can't exactly force people to pretend to like me.

When someone is picking on me, any reaction I have doesn't work. You know those movies where someone is getting bullied, and they come up with a totally awesome put-down and everyone laughs at the bully and then the victim becomes more popular? NEVER happens in real life. The bully and the bully's friends just go, "You what?" and act like they don't understand what you just said, instead of admit they just got pwned.

Violence doesn't work because they hit back harder (I wouldn't even care if I got in trouble as long as it actually worked, but it doesn't).

I just need this to stop.

i went through the same thing in school, from kindergarten through graduation. my suggestion, whether you want to go to the teacher or not, is to go. don't let your pride get in the way of standing up and getting help like i did and don't let this go on any longer than it has to.

try not to talk too much because that can make you a target. hitting them may get you arrested so that is not a smart idea. im not exactly saying my advice is best and it may fail you if you are too quiet. people are different and different things work for different people. i personally stay quiet because i think the bully's are not worth the trouble. sorry for sounding depressing but there are few ways of stopping a bully and i think you wont find them.

I have previously suffered similar - they say ignoring works (and it does on the odd occasion), but for some people they feed off that lack of reaction. However, I've heard of cases where the odd AS kid being bullied threw a brick at their bully. A brick. Quite clearly, those are the two extremes - and neither tend to work that well because, in the end, both have more disadvantages than advantages. My suggestion? Ignore him to begin with. If he continues, depending on your social skills with him, you can either threaten him that, if he doesn't stop, you are willing to tell the teacher/"grass up". If he just scoffs at it, ignores it or continues then tell a teacher - letting them know you let him know first.

An alternative, if your not that confident, is to tell the teacher about what is happening and ask if they can keep a closer eye on you in class - merely avoid the person by sticking near members of authority outside of class.

Ignoring a bully who picked on me working, this guy thrives on attention. Not to mention that he tried to steal my ruler and when I grabbed it as he was taking it he wasn't strong enough to pull it out of my hand. Then he started talking and talking and talking to me...

I think there was something wrong with that guy...

Anyway, ignoring can work, you seem to respond to the bullies, try ignoring them, they wont stop at the start but they should just move on to a "better" target eventually.

I know what you mean... I'v been there... maby not as serious, but somewhere in teh general vicinity non the less... I plot revenge.... I have formulated a perfect revenge plan....! Here it is: wait till the go to the canteen for lunch, the should put down their bag. So long as their bag is away from them and they can't see it, you will be fine... put your bag next to it, with the zips of both bags next to each other. take a water bottle out of your bag, and pretend to drink from it, have a friend present, get them to start talking, start talking back, and while your talking drain the bottle in to the bully's bag. Then put the bottle back in your bag, zip up your bag, and the bully's, and walk off! no one would know it was you! of course that may not work.... but it's worth a try! While I was being anoyed by some one, who get's a whole group of otherwise neuteral peopel to join in:( I couldent hit him, as he is alot bigger than me:( And I couldent say anything, as it would be used against me.... so I plotted and schemed....

Make the right friends. I came from a small school then I went to a large secondary school. I had friends from the old school and used them to slot in. Now what you do is just make one friend in the right place and they can make everything else fall into place. Failing that come up with a good comeback or just ignore them. I know they say that doesn't work but I've been on both ends of the stick. Bullies will get worse for a bit but eventually they get bored and move on. If you need any other advice send me a message, I'm always happy to help people.

Thanks everyone, things have improved somewhat since I posted this. It's like something just clicked inside of me and I no longer really care what they have to say. Today was rather bad, but that's a one-off, the rest of the time has been OK.

Like trolls on forums, don't give them any emotional reaction. Also, if someone is doing something really bad, tell a teacher you trust (and make sure they keep it confidential). Worked for me before.

well im still bullied at school so what i do is just act like a total baadass as school and say i am proud of being weird if they want to be personality subtle zombie inions that all look the same they can do thhat but i want to be different so what if i lonly ill just hang out with the weird kids who knows you might meet an aspie like you that stands up for themnselves and or you