Do People Treat You Differently If They Know U Got Aspergers

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Have you ever let people know that you have a form of autism? Before you let people know, did they treat you in a certain way? Did they treat you a different way after they found out?

Do you think things would change for better or for worse if people knew you had it?

Nothing changed for me. People either dont know what the hell I am talking about and/or they just continue to treat me like crap regardless.

I think it depends on who you tell. One person may completely ignore everything you've said to them, and treat everything with apathy, or even go as far as to dismiss it completely, and say you're using it as an excuse for your behaviour instead of an explanation.

Or, on the flip side, another person (whom lets say you've had a rocky relationship with until you tell them) may learn to understand so much about you, learn about what certain things cause you to act in certain ways, and learn to make allowances which makes your relationship a whole lot smoother. However, that's not to suggest any rocky relationships will no longer be rocky at all. Just because someone understands and makes allowances doesn't mean that arguments do not occur. But at least when things do go wrong they can grasp what caused it and forgive you because of it.

I see. Well, like most Asperger kids in High School, I got the usual social problems. I am thinking of maybe telling people that I have it, and maybe I'd be more understood, and perhaps times would get easier. On the flip side, ignorance may take over, and people would think I am "ret*d", which generally means any person with a mental disorder or problem. I might be putting too much faith in to the humanity of high school children by telling them. It might just make everything worse.

I guess, like you said, it dpeends on the person you're telling. And the people who know.

In the end, nothing seems to happen at all. There's no understanding or thinking you're ret*d for it in my experience.

The only people who know i have it are my family and my closest friends mainly because they arent gonna judge me as they see me as a human being and not something with a warning label hanging off.

i dont use the term autism either because that way i'll get judged a beast

I have a friendly who has Asperger's. I've heard him mention it in class a few times, but people generally just give him a look and tell him they don't know what that is, and he doesn't really have time to explain it.

When he told my other friend, though, she seemed to understand and at least keeps in the back of her mind that he has trouble with things that NTs find natural, and she's pretty forgiving of his behavoir.

And of course, since I learned he had Asperger's a few days after I learned about it, and I've put a lot of research into it, I feel like I understand and connect with him (though I haven't really found a way to let him know I understand, since he hasn't told me directly, and somehow I feel like "So, you have Asperger's?" would be awkward or something).

So it just comes down to the people, I guess. Most people don't know enough about Asperger's to pass any sort of judgement, others might be more lenient if it's explained to them, but I wouldn't put it past highschoolers to make it into something degrading. Kids are cruel. :/ I would probably only tell a few people I trusted to not blow it out of proportion.

When I say it people are usually like "Ok.", they ask me questions about it or they think I'm a ret*d afterwards. Out of those three people mostly think I'm a ret*d afterwards and they ask me questions so I don't really tell anyone that I have high functioning autism.

People just pass me by before and after.

I'm glad my teachers know. They're pretty understanding. Last year they didn't know and would look at me weird if I asked to work on a group project alone, or something.

I would never tell any of the kids at school, though. There is one kid who is open about his AS, and he has major issues, so many of the kids think that having Asperger's means swearing at teachers, skipping school, and failing all your classes, among other things. I don't want to be stuck with that label.

I'm pretty popular at my school. But, I go to an arts high school. In middle school, I was liked and hated. Some populars liked me and some didn't. It all depended. Not like I care. I get along with pretty much everybody so if they didn't like me there's always other people who liked me and enjoyed my company.

Teachers do, friends don't. I've only told a few people and they didn't seem too fussed about it. But sort of in the first/second year of high school word spread and I had people coming up to me and asking questions like "what you're obsession?" and I didn't tell them because at the time it was still mermaids and I didn't want to look more uncool than I already was. But most people just forgot not long after, one of my old friends forgot shortly after I told her which I found odd because you don't usually forget that do you.

I definitely get that all the time, especially from my teachers and my parents, it just gets to a point that it just gets on my bleeping nerves , it just makes me wonder why i was in this planet in the first place, im even feeling crying while typing this.
My friends dont mind for what i'am and i know i have a few true friends who treat me the way i would like to be treated because i can have a normal laugh like everybody else does but its annoying they think i can't do normal things when I know I can, ive been braught up in a normal until when I was in that secondary school, thats when my family started to treat me more differently, and im not enjoying it!! I love my parents very much but i wished it was like how it was before i went to that school... it would of made me happy

I even had to learn how the basics that i already knew in school and i didn't like the fact i would be the only one who would know all the answers to them...

Although i dont mind so much when it gets to females (a.k.a girlfriends, i get distracted by them )

It depends entirely on the person(s) you tell, I'd been working at my job about 4 years prior to being diagnosed, I did tell my co-workers and they didn't change, on the other hand, I've had the opposite reaction from some people.

I suppose the best answer is to do your best to judge the person and then decide whether to tell them or not.

yep peple will always treat me diffrently so i try 2 keep it a secret