Should I tell my mom?

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I'm fairly certain that I'm AS. Should I tell my mom?

She's got a degree in psychology, so she shrinks me a lot. She's also a religious nut. You'd think these two things would cancel each other out, but they don't with her.

If I told her, she'd either go, "Well, have you asked God about it?" (Her form of denial, I've come to realize.) or "Well, why do you think you have it? What are the symptoms? Do you have them?" Aka, she'd start to shrink me.

I feel like she deserves to know simply because she's my mom and I live with her, but I don't want to start having issues. We have enough as it is. On the other hand, I hate being diagnosed, and I don't tell her a lot of things because of it.

I'm more willing to tell my dad, on the other hand. Him and I are a lot alike, but we don't really talk much. It's a "we're so much alike, we don't really get along" type of situation.

Help?

Last edited by OrtonStorm on 18 Apr 2008, 7:08 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Why don't you ask your mom if you can visit a therapist?

I've been to one before because of a previous thing, and it did no good. Besides, I don't really like the idea of telling a stranger about my problems, ya know?

My mom would ask the same questions. This is probably why I haven't "gotten around" to mentioning it yet.......

I say go ahead and tell her. She prolly knows that you're a little different anyways. She might not beleive you at first when you tell her by saying you're just shy and need to come out of your shell. Try to explain to her with detail what it is, the symptoms and all that.

If you will benefit from telling her, then sure, go ahead.
Since she has a degree in psychology, technically, wouldn't she be able to give you an un-official diagnosis anyway? Or is there a "relatives can't diagnose relatives" type of rule?

Although, if you are more willing to tell your dad, thats also a good idea. It might be easier since he wont "shrink you". Although, it might be harder because as you said, you two don't get along.

In my opinion, it's your choice, and only you will know whats best in this situation.

I'm the exact same with my dad. We're very much alike.

Do what your heart tells you.
I told my mum and she kinda denied it but she agrees that most of the symptoms fit me.
If you feel more comfortable with telling your dad, I think you should tell him first.

I haven't told my dad yet.

Some people have really kind mums and they help their children, so if you think yours is a kind mum who will understand, then absolutely tell her because she will be able to help you.

why shudnt u tell her?

Try your father first; it sounds like he may be willing to listen without trying to analyze you himself.