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27 Mar 2008, 5:30 pm

I'm a 16 Year old guy who would like to make friends with some girls. I have a hard time being friends with girls because I don't know what to do. I have a hard time figuring out what girls really mean when they say stuff. Are there any girls that would like to be friends? How do I become friends with girls?



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27 Mar 2008, 5:34 pm

I feel exactly the same way. I'm 16 years old, and would like to make friends with some girls.



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27 Mar 2008, 5:52 pm

Get a direction, sport or academia, do something you really enjoy then they'll enjoy being around you. Then all you gotta do is say hi.



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27 Mar 2008, 6:12 pm

Give them expensive gifts. As a rule, this is quite effective ....


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27 Mar 2008, 6:15 pm

Im 17, and I too have this problem, im normally alot shyer around girls than guys, and the girls that do notice me are... gross :(



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27 Mar 2008, 6:36 pm

As a girl in your age group, I understand. There are some highly undesirable young ladies running about. And the girls worth knowing are sometimes just as shy as you guys are. They don't always walk up to a guy who is a loner for fear of disturbing him or being snapped at.


You can PM me if you want to talk. :)



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27 Mar 2008, 7:33 pm

All you really can do is be yourself, you shouldn't have to fake your identity to make friends.


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27 Mar 2008, 8:15 pm

I have a theory and it goes like this: Ask your self this question 'what type of person do I want to meet?'..........Then ask yourself 'Where would that type of person spend time?' If you can answer those questions, you may have a clue about where to spend time interacting with people you like.........This is only a theory, one day I might try it,LOL



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27 Mar 2008, 8:39 pm

Well, I'm sixteen and a girl, so if you wanna talk, I'm cool with it ^_^

I'm not entirely familiar with the differences between how teenage girls and teen boys make friends, but I know that I like being friends with guys who are generally nice guys; outgoingness has very little to do with it. I can't stand ones that are cocky or rude. I think it would be helpful to get involved in something you love, so you'll meet girls who you could befriend who share the same interests. :D


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28 Mar 2008, 1:57 am

I'm 15 and have plenty of girls as friends, never had a girlfriend though.



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28 Mar 2008, 2:14 am

Aw I'd be your friend,

But, you probably mean face to face so...
I know it's hard to just spontaneously approach someone and say hi, but unless you have other friends that could introduce you, it may be one of the only options. Are there any girls in any of your classes? (if at school) If so, try and sit near one of them and ask them something. e.g. you forgot a red pen or something lol :D , and ask if you could borrow theirs. You'll have to try conversing, but then some girls like quiet guys, and they could also talk to you if they want. BUT, 1. don't talk to a bitchy girl, we all know where thats going to go and 2. Don't be a jerk. Yeah, so in general just be nice.
I can understand if this is not possible, but girls often like it when a guy randomly talks to them. (I find it hard to talk to the guys in one of my classes ((im the only girl)), but luckily enough some of them talk to me. I don't contribute to the conversation much though lol
Good luck :D



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28 Mar 2008, 10:00 am

It's an art, what else can I say. I've not really been able to figure it out myself as they see me as to needy or to shy most of the times. Girls like when you joke around with them or try to get to know them. Don't talk about your interests around them whatsoever. As hard as that can be, when your first getting to know a girl most can be turned off from being talked at about something that doesn't interest them. Make polite small talk and if the girl is interested she'll show you. Some will be hard to read as they will give mixed messages.


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28 Mar 2008, 10:01 am

Just be honest and yourself.^^

that ought to win a few freinds on either side.^^

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28 Mar 2008, 6:05 pm

Try boyish girls? Most of the girls I really like are kinda boyish in behaviour. What can I say, I just find it hard to hold much interest in what boys are "Dreamy" or how best to apply makeup. (Obviously not saying that all girls are like this, just the ones in my grade :roll: )

I first got to talk with my best female friend over a game of cards during recess, you might wanna try that, there is very little eye contact and a generally discharged atmosphere.


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28 Mar 2008, 10:53 pm

I am not at all interested in the opposite sex, so you could say I'm asexual. But the opposite sex is interested in me, and it's beginning to piss me off. I don't want to appear rude, but I'm serious when I say this. I have more important things to think about than this. I have not once considered anyone of any gender attractive, but this doesn't seem to be helping. I know about everything there is to know about computers, I can be a good friend, but to most of you males out there, you usually appear more attracted to them than they are you. And being a full blooded liberal, I don't like discrimination against anything, so anytime anybody calls anybody a deragatory term, I blow up. Then this one girl always says "scream it", and I just yell "What!?" Even yelling doesn't help.

I am a kind person, I am. I protest for gay rights, and the only reason I joined this site is so I could understand what other kids who have AS disorders suffer, and let them know that they are not alone. I also joined this site to look into the parent's perspective of it, and how it feels.



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29 Mar 2008, 6:44 am

Just being yourself for me and have few friends who are girls which isn't a surprise to me one bit.


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