Does this happen to anybody?

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Does anybody get sent to their room for things that your siblings don't? All my siblings kick me around all the time and I rarely do. I just pushed my sister out of the way and I immediatly get sent to my room without breakfast. If my brother claws at me and I am bleeding my parents shout at me, "What have you done to are little boy scratch you!! !" No matter what the case is even when I am around but not involved in any way I get consequences for not watching them or stopping them.

Does this happen to anybody?

Siblings are out to get you. It's a universal rule.

Are you the oldest? That might be why.

Yeah,
Your siblings just have your parents convinced that you are the problem.

Meanwhile, you are the polite quiet one setting the 'ideal' example.

Your parents my friend, are acting like a couple of idiots.

Universal rule: the evil are louder than the good.

x_amount_of_words: Are you the oldest? That might be why.

I am the oldest.

Think about all these things:

All parents are unfair sometimes.
Parents want peace and quiet. If trouble goes to you like a magnet, it's easy for them to
put you in your room. They are yelling for the same reason you are, there is trouble.

Don't think of your room as punishment. It's safe. There's no trouble. Your siblings are
not bothering you anymore. Everyone including you gets peace and quiet.

You can keep your funnest toys in your room and play with them there anytime. If you
are sent to your room then your siblings can not play with them. And you can make
your room into a clubhouse for "nice siblings only" if you want.

Although you may have peace and quiet and fun in your room, your parents are hoping
you will think about how to get along with siblings. If you are smarter than they are,
you should think about it. One idea is the club idea. Here are other ideas:

(WARNING: These ideas worked for me, but might not work today. MAY BE BAD ADVICE.)
Also I have no age sense here so it might all seem totally ridiculous.
In any case remember THE GOAL IS PEACE NOT WAR.

If siblings START IT with you, what can you do to peacefully STOP IT?
-Maybe suggest playing a fun game, and being the player that has the least fun.
HIDE AND SEEK! I'M "IT" FIRST!
-Say OW! They might realize they are hurting you and stop.
-Try hard to avoid fighting in a car. It distracts the driver and might cause an accident.
-Walk or run away from the trouble. Sounds lame but trouble rarely catches you.
You could be satisfied just KNOWING that you CAN win the fight AND get in trouble.
-Be silly, but only in ways that confuse the fun of getting in trouble with you.
Don't always be silly, or you'll be a clown and it will be more fun to START IT.
-Be unpredictable, also in ways that confuse the fun of getting you in trouble.
-If you ever have fun with siblings, say "lets do a fun thing" when they try to START IT.
-If you ever are friends with siblings, try to find ways to be friends with them more.
-Outsmart them (this is ALL about doing that).
-If they are afraid of something, exploit that, and say you'll protect them from it,
and when they START IT, say you might change your mind. Feed the hungry
monster in their closet with special monster food that only you know how to make,
to "make friends with it". Maybe use halloween stuff to show them know how hungry
the monster is. Can you make the monster talk?
-Surprise them. Have "fun club" meetings with little things they like
(snacks, or coin machine toys, or cereal box prizes, whatever).
-If you catch them doing something bad, say you'll "tell" if they START IT with you.
Be a "nice cop". "I saw you do it! If Mommy saw you do that you'd be in BIG TROUBLE!"
-If siblings calling you names bothers you, say something gross to them.
Like: "Do you want to eat some boogers?"
They might not like thinking about gross things as much as calling you names.
Or maybe they will think gross things are MORE fun.
-If they hit you, tickle them (unless that is now a crime).
-Try to make it more obvious to parents when they get into trouble when you aren't
involved. If you are successful in avoiding trouble, they will be seen as the
trouble-makers. One way is to watch TV with parents while siblings are being bad,
so parents can't blame you more than themselves. But they might still blame you.
-ONLY IF YOU ARE CLEVER ENOUGH, Set up a trouble-trap just for siblings. JUST ONCE.
(the point is not revenge, but to teach parents that you aren't the trouble-maker,
which would fail in the worst way if they can figure out that you planned it.)

Of course there is stupid trouble and there is serious trouble.
Don't let siblings get into serious troubles like playing with fire.

lock yourself in your room until they are willing to see it from your side

I actually love going to my room. Its more the shame of going when I did not do anything. I usually miss a meal while I am in my room and I have not eaten today and I am very hungry. The only game my siblings like to play is "beat up aguila with the noodle".

As for my siblings "STARTING IT" my parents have no care whatsoever. My 3 siblings are the little darlings in my family who would not do a thing to harm anybody. I am the geek who doesnt like to talk to them and will do absolutly anything to try and murder the little darlings. (from my perants point of view)

I am going to try some of those things.

btw thats a cool name

It hasn't happened to me, but maybe the fact I'm the youngest one in my family (and now the only one below 18) would account for that. I'd agree with the 'oldest is worst-kid-in-family' theory.

Wish I could empathize, but I do understand your stance.