Hurt people without knowing it

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I was just recently diagnosed and just found some things out that I was clueless about previously. One situation that was hard for me and that I didn't understand was with this girl that I was friends with. There is a girl that lives down the street from me that i was friends with and I would occasionally hang out with her and stuff. I thought everything was going good between us as I had known her for about 2 years. She then stopped talking to me and we stopped hanging out but I had no idea why. Around the time of my diagnosis I was talking to my mom about her and why she didn't like me anymore. My mom told me that she really liked me and wanted to be more than just friends. My mom just figured that i didn't like her anymore and that is why we didn't talk anymore. My mom said that her cues were extremely obvious and that this is probably the reason why she wouldn't talk to me anymore. She said that I broke her heart.

I feel really bad because if I had an earlier diagnosis and she would have known about it and things could have been different. I really liked being her friend and wish things wouldn't have happened the way they did. Has anyone else had problems like this?

Yes. People have started acting different towards me and I wouldn't know why. I can remember when I was 8, I befriended this first grader on the bus. We talked a lot and she tell me about her problems with her teacher and I enjoyed listening to the drama. I guess it made me feel better that I wasn't the only one who had problems with other people. But then one day she didn't want me sitting next to her anymore. This continued for the rest of the school year. I never understood why? Then one day I had to sit with her and she said "We are not going to talk." She always said this when we be sitting close to each other, even when I was in third grade and up. Then one day in the 6th grade I asked her why she started acting that way and what did I ever do wrong and she said I had said something hurtful to her. I don't remember what it was but she told me what it was and she was hurt by it. I was shocked and apologized for it even though I didn't remember the incident. All those years she had never told me what bothered her and how I made her feel until I asked. I had never understood her behavior. I only knew she was acting different and the fact she had changed. I don’t know if she disliked me or not.

I am sure I have scared other people away on the internet. They would stop talking to me. I always figure I did something wrong and I don’t worry about it. Also the fact they don’t come on anymore, either they changed their sn or they blocked me. I don’t worry about it. I figure it’s their problem. Their loss because they missed out on knowing me.

I hurt people unintentionally all the time.

Sometimes I get random messages from people getting all defensive and stuff just because I don't reply to people. I don't have anything against them, I do it to everyone. I pretty much hate conversations that I'm not interested in discussing X_x

In sixth grade I was accused of bullying someone that I thought was a friend. The school was very defensive as they new about my disability, so the parent of the kid went directly to my mom who explained to her about my disability. I am now treated like a little kid by this person.

Throughout my childhood and adolescence, friends would suddenly turn on me, ignore me, or be mean to me and i was clueless as to why. My mom tells me I was rude and mean to them and ignored them, I just didn't know I was doing it. I think this is pretty common for us. I was also clueless about if a guy liked me or not. I couldn't read those cues and i apparently ignored a lot of people. oh, well.