really f*cking confused right now

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okay im really confused right now

this is what happend

last night someone knocked on my window, so i opended the door (i'm home alone with only my dog this week, family is on holiday) it was one of my best friends/the girl whom i secretly have a crush on, she told me she ran away from home, and asked for a place to spend the night. i did what i think is best for a friend in need, let her in, assure her it's gonna be okay and give her a room too sleep in, i decided she needed to calm down first, knowing her fondness of marijuana i grabbed the last of my stash and we smoked some pot together, i gave her my sisters room too sleep in. i slept only 3 hours or so (i'm an insomniac) and now i'm just really confused, i want too help her.

aaahhh..... hmmm.... well...... I have no answer

edit:
ok, here is what you do:
ask her what she ran away for first (of course) and then try to comfort her, trying to reassure her that things will be ok. Try and give her some space, unless she wants to be with someone, then try and be close, but not too close. When she is all cooled down, then let her go on home, unless of course she would rather stay

That is one big compliment she paid you that she felt she could ask you for help, that she felt safe enough around you to do so.

Check whether her parents are likely to call the police. If so then it might be a good idea to let them know where she is, if she is in agreement, depending on why she has run away, if she isn't frightened of abuse from them.

I know it sounds boring but perhaps you should phone your parents to tell them that you are putting up a friend in need so that there is no trouble later from them, or in which they might be if her parents are angry.

She may just want to talk everything out and that can be really important in finding out what to do, so just listening to her would be a good, and valuable, way to help her.

Good luck.

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ok, here is what you do:
ask her what she ran away for first (of course) and then try to comfort her, trying to reassure her that things will be ok. Try and give her some space, unless she wants to be with someone, then try and be close, but not too close. When she is all cooled down, then let her go on homequote]

i did that at firsthand the moment she came in, she's at home now, she left at 17.00 i walked her too the bus station, she wasnt as upset as yesterday infact she was pretty cheerful again, and decided that it was best too go home (she probably realised that running away isnt the way to solve the problem, i also told her that several times yesterday) so she's home now, i just spoke her over MSN, she told me that her parents we're happy to have her home again, and i'm happy for her too