How.. do I approach her?

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A few months ago, on this same board, I made a thread about how I had a crush on a few girls, who were completely unlike me. That was, I think, November 27th.

Last month, about January 9th, all English II classes at my high school went on a trip to the Holocaust Museum in Washington, D.C.. Well, I finished up there about a half an hour early because I found out that after the 3-hour bus ride, we only had 1 hour to go around the museum, so I rushed.

Well, when I finished, I stood off to the side by myself, like I always do, because I have no friends. Well, while I was standing there, I noticed this girl standing in the middle of the room, standing all alone, with this worried expression on her face, I noticed she was the girl who was sitting in front of me on the bus..

She also sat in front of me on the bus on the way back. Well, on the way back, we stopped at this place called the "Chesapeake House", a rest stop that we stopped at on the way up, for an hour. When I went to the Popeye's in there, I saw her in line, getting her food all alone, and she was eating by herself, too..

When we got back to the school, I noticed she didn't get off the bus. After calling my mom to pick me up, I stood outside the E building, which is where I would have been for robotics that day if I hadn't gone on the trip. A few minutes after standing there, I noticed that same girl walking alone, rolling along this book bag.

Seeing her alone, looking just as out of place as myself, made me really want to talk to her, but with my lack of social skills, I was really too afraid to go and do it.. It was something much stronger than I ever felt for any of those other girls that I had crushes on, I suppose because, it seemed like we were both sort of outcasts.

I never saw her before that trip, and I wondered why.. About three weeks later, I saw her in the hallways after I was late leaving my 2nd block U.S. History I class for block 3C Lunch.

This semester, my lunch got switched to block 4C, and now I briefly see her everyday when I go to grab my lunch.

When I leave my Student Prep 4D, I usually see her walking into the D wing, which is where I'm leaving.. The D wing is for art and science classes, so I know she has one of those 5th block, but I really don't know anything-else about her.

I still feel the way about her. I'm not saying I love her or anything, but I want to be friends with her, and get to know her. I don't know whether or not she has friends, I thought I saw her walking along with someone the other day after I left the bathroom (I wanted to wash my hands after lunch), but that one day nearly a month ago was enough for me. I still want to talk to her just as much..

But I'm not sure how. I don't know her name, and I tried looking for a picture of her in the yearbook, being that she went on that trip, she would have to be a sophomore.. But I didn't see her in last year's yearbook.

I've seen her during lunch, and it's really my only opportunity to talk to her; next quarter, either of our lunches could end up being switched. But in a cafeteria with over 600 people, I'm really afraid to just walk around and look for her, and if I saw her, I wouldn't know what to say.. especially if she actually was sitting with people.

Does anyone understand my situation? I do believe I kind of went into a lot of detail, but this is pretty important to me.. What do I do?

well bro, time for you to take one for the team. Im not saying to go searching for her, but the NEXT TIME you see her, you walk up and introduce yourself. Dont mention any of the times youve seen her before just yet tho. Have a BRIEF conversation, 2 to 3 mins max. The whole thing should consist of hi, Im _____, whats your name? Compliment her name genuinely, and maybe her clothing, but nothing too serious. She'll respond if you do this in a polite yet confident and calm way. You cant be scared of her. You have to see her as an equal, not an opposite. She deserves the same respect as you would expect for yourself.

Dont be cocky, but allow yourself some freedom to show who you are personality wise. Girls want a guy who's themself, not just one of the "herd". Doesnt hurt to look presentable either. Not saying you need to dress suit and tie, but you should have your hair styled(at least a slick back), some kind of cologne on top of using deodorant, and make sure you match somewhat. Again, style is an outer reflection of the inner self.

Once youve touched bases with her, you can say it was nice meeting you, hope I see you around sometime. Or if you're really feelin risky, you can ask for some contact information. Simply asking for an email address phone number or instant messanger, myspace name, whatever. Just make sure you get across the point of wanting to be friends.

From there, the stars hold your fate...

Life is short. Stuff changes and she could vanish.
Talk to her asap.
Can you find some excuse to say "pass the salt" or something like that?

If you see her in the cafeteria and you're sure that she's with people, I'd be afraid.
But if she's alone, there's nothing wrong with sitting a couple of chairs away.
You need a place to sit anyway, and you don't need to say too much.