Staring at People

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04 Sep 2008, 7:45 pm

I don't know, sometimes, when I see someone with a prosthesis or injury, I can't help staring. I know it's rude, but sometimes, I can't help it. It's the same thing when I see people with dwarfism or some other disability, I can't help but look, and then they get offended. And I feel really bad about it 'cause it's rude, but I don't know how to pretend that somebody's not in a wheelchair or somethig similar.

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04 Sep 2008, 7:49 pm

I used to struggle not staring either. What I would do is, I would keep my head turned away, I would have my back turned to them, went to another spot in a store where I couldn't see them. I also used to move to another spot too when I be in a book store reading. That all helped me overcome my staring problem.

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04 Sep 2008, 8:48 pm

Yeah, if someone looks interesting or different than what you're used to seeing, it's hard not to study them. I grew up in a pretty white town, so now that I'm in a more diverse community I'm always wanting to look over these people of different races, but I don't want them to catch me looking at them, because they might think I'm staring, but then maybe they'll be offended when I avert my eyes?! Life is silly, isn't it.

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04 Sep 2008, 10:04 pm

People can get offended easly...

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04 Sep 2008, 10:09 pm

Julia_the_Great wrote:

That is normal. They tell you not to stare, so then you rapidly look away and end up offending them because you can't bare to lay eyes on it.

A good way to try to hide this is to smile and say "Hi" then look away after they responded. That way there is an excuse for you looking at them for so long and you aren't flicking your eyes away the moment you see them

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07 Sep 2008, 6:42 pm

I can ignore most unusual things, but today I saw a black albino, which means his skins is light red instead of black and his hair is bleach blond instead of black. I can't seem to ignore certain large people; they disturb me.

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05 Oct 2008, 3:01 am

I can't help staring at cute guys. Ok, I know, that was lame.

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12 Oct 2008, 12:17 pm

oh i have a huge problem with this!
at work i sometimes end up sat at my till with no customers for 5 mins and someone with a physical disfiguration walks in and i cant help but look

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