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I hate socializing with kids my age. I always have been the odd man out.
I just can't seem to get into the fads people are into these days.
Being a gangster, being emo, or being goth.
They need to define themselves as that to make themselves a person.
And sadly, I don't want that as my friend or any kind of influence on me.

When I do socialize with people I tend to get nervous, don't know what to say.
So I tend to say odd things.
Such as when I was talking to some kids about Togos and Subway.
I said, "Togos is the sexier sister of Subway."
Just cause Togos knows how to make a sandwich better then Subway.[Subway they don't put enough meat on your sandwich]
One time I said, frogs are green.

Of course I don't make friends easily either.
People aren't to be trusted I have went through enough backstabbing and pain to know, people aren't to be trusted.

I just hate socializing, in general with strangers or kids my age.
Is this normal?
Do you feel the same way?
Have you ever just said random things to jump start a conversation?
Have you ever just felt like you were looking through the world as a giant snowglobe and you were shaking the globe, not being able to live that happy world everyone else portrays?
Have you ever felt the same way?

For me its scocializing with strangers with people i know i dont have much of a problem with suprisingly.

My mom has sort of relaxed on me about me saying odd and strange things sometimes.
She just laughs and takes it as the way I am.
So it's not hard to socialize with her.

Just other people, strangers, kid's at school, and even teachers at times.

I never got along with people my own age. Now I hang out with people upwards of 15 years older than me. I'm still not that close with many of them (I think most of them tolerate me because I have one or two actual good friends that they are friends with), but I prefer their company to my "peers."

I love hanging with people my age. I purposely hang out with the weird, wild, unique people because most of the time they are the ones who are actually different. Fads suck.

Dobbin wrote:

You'll probably be remembered more for the funny silly weird and unique things you say (even in a positive way) than if you try and fail to speak the cool teen slang of today, which will even more quickly be forgotten.

"It's funny how much the word BOOBS looks like what it means."

I'd rather read a good book, play a video game, or go bike-riding than socialise with strangers.

I don't like socialsing with my peers that much, either, and I don't see why they all have to conform with stereotypes.

My time is much better spent memorising pi.

Unfortunately last september I started working in a little shop owned by my family (cigarettes and stuff) so every single day (except sunday) I'm forced to face random people asking for things. It's a very superficial form of socialization but it's SO draining, during christmas holidays I went almost completely crazy. It just doesn't work, no matter what I do. In general pratically everything is better than random socializing.

Well, most people I don't get along with, but other nerds are fine.

In real life I don't get along with others my age because they seem so immature and I can't relate to them at all. Their experiences are so different compared to mine, their interests are so different. I wouldn't know what to say even if I did want to have a conversation. However I can get along with most adults ok. They seem to accept me more and we have more in common - not with life experiences but with interests.

I expected the same thing and never tried being a cashier until after the age of 50. By this time, everything I need for meeting a new person has been calculated and put on auto-pilot. I was stunned to find that customers are surprisingly easy. For me, it's the long-term relationships with coworkers that require a conscious effort.

Yeah, maybe I should try to reason it out and prepare some standard answers/behaviors.

I don't usually get along with people my own age. They are usually jerks and are generally not very nice people. And usually our interests are so vastly different (this part is amplified by the fact I go to a school that's populated mostly with jocks and rednecks) that any hope of any socialization that's not forced is negated.

Though there are the few people like me that go to my school as well; the dregs of my schools society. We are very good friends and one of them has helped me socially and behaviorally in many ways.

mmmm i almost never socialise if you take away the online stuff that is adults are easier to talk to since their more mature and accepting well most any way i dont socialise with any with my peers even with autistics i find socialising most the time i see no need cause i like intelligent conversation not ohter kinds of conversation

That sounds familiar. In middle school (back in the stone age/late 1960's) I hung out with the gang of weirdos. They were certainly more fun than the mainstreamers. Looking back, I suspect that we were all Aspies. I know that one of the guys has a severely Autistic daughter now.