Help Needed - Serious AS-related Bullying
I don't want to recall what's happened with this entire ordeal just yet, but here's a journal entry on Facebook that's about me:
1) GRACE I AM PISSED OFF AT YOU
i cant belive you take her side, she is playing you
i though we where f*****g friends we have been since elemetry.
2) people she is foolling you ALL
my info says there is no asperar syndrom even if she does have it SHE GETS NO RIGHT TO BE A b***h
people agree with me cause i am not the kind of person she potraiys me to be
she started it and i just kept adding to it cause i defend myself like that.
i eneded it awile ago and she kept adding to it
she makes herself look like a perfect little prick and you know what i am sick of it
she thinks she can walk all over people just to get what she want. i dont take that bull s**t from anyone.
people think that i am being a complete ass but i am not i am defending my pride and honor.
she talks about everyone behind there back
she uses the damn A-syndrome FOR EVERYTHING just to use for a excuse.
she gets to swear and hurt people and she gets to be a b***h to who ever she wants.
she wears masks she will never show her true face to people.
Btw Katie if you are reading
YOUR NOT A f*****g FOX GOD DAMN IT YOUR A GOD DAMN NOOB
=______________+ god
people who comment to her journal and said she about me
talk to me why dont you
learn my side of the story
or even my sisters version ?
if you wanna take her bitchness am not telling you not to be friends with her
i am just applying to her both sides of the story
d.j
I'm Katie, Grace is a friend of mine, and DJ is the attacker. You'll notice that some of that is directed at my Asperger's, which is part of why I decided to post it here.
I'm not completely innocent here. I have said bad things about them behind their back, but I believe that what they have been doing has been worse (they being DJ and two other girls). Not only have they made fun of me while pretending to be my friends for over a year now, but they wanted to take all of the doodles they had mocking me, make a youtube video out of them, and send it to me anonymously. They LITERALLY, LITERALLY, LITERALLY, hate seeing me happy.
This is the first time in awhile that I've felt suicidal, and I really need help. My sister is mostly on their side, my parents are busy or something, and some of my friends aren't helping.
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High tech + greater connectivity = more ways for human beings to gang up on one another.
It's a shame that this is happening to you. An argument is an argument - whether it's taking place on a street corner or on the Net. Now you must keep a cool head while you figure out how to back off from the situation.
Nasty things are being said about you on Facebook? Take a break from Facebook. You are receiving unpleasant messages or emails? Walk away from your computer and find something else to do. Anything at all. Read a book, go for a walk, bake a cake, play with the dog - anything.
It doesn't matter what the disagreement is about. It doesn't matter who started it. It doesn't matter who said what to whom. What does matter is that the battle gets stopped before it gets worse. What matters is that you can choose to walk away from it.
Best wishes for a speedy resolution!
1) GRACE I AM PISSED OFF AT YOU
i cant belive you take her side, she is playing you
i though we where f***ing friends we have been since elemetry.
2) people she is foolling you ALL
my info says there is no asperar syndrom even if she does have it SHE GETS NO RIGHT TO BE A b***h
people agree with me cause i am not the kind of person she potraiys me to be
she started it and i just kept adding to it cause i defend myself like that.
i eneded it awile ago and she kept adding to it
she makes herself look like a perfect little prick and you know what i am sick of it
she thinks she can walk all over people just to get what she want. i dont take that bull sh** from anyone.
people think that i am being a complete ass but i am not i am defending my pride and honor.
she talks about everyone behind there back
she uses the damn A-syndrome FOR EVERYTHING just to use for a excuse.
she gets to swear and hurt people and she gets to be a b***h to who ever she wants.
she wears masks she will never show her true face to people.
Btw Katie if you are reading
YOUR NOT A f***ing FOX GOD DAMN IT YOUR A GOD DAMN NOOB
=______________+ god
people who comment to her journal and said she about me
talk to me why dont you
learn my side of the story
or even my sisters version ?
if you wanna take her bitchness am not telling you not to be friends with her
i am just applying to her both sides of the story
d.j
I'm Katie, Grace is a friend of mine, and DJ is the attacker. You'll notice that some of that is directed at my Asperger's, which is part of why I decided to post it here.
I'm not completely innocent here. I have said bad things about them behind their back, but I believe that what they have been doing has been worse (they being DJ and two other girls). Not only have they made fun of me while pretending to be my friends for over a year now, but they wanted to take all of the doodles they had mocking me, make a youtube video out of them, and send it to me anonymously. They LITERALLY, LITERALLY, LITERALLY, hate seeing me happy.
This is the first time in awhile that I've felt suicidal, and I really need help. My sister is mostly on their side, my parents are busy or something, and some of my friends aren't helping.
Okay: Some practical advice
Take their hateful messages that they have left on Facebook and report it as a violation of terms of service. Defamatory material about another person is prohibited.
Take the hateful video that they posted on You Tube and report this as a violation of terms of service.
If Facebook and You Tube decides the violation is serious enough their accounts will be cancelled.
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No, no. Don't do this. Don't retaliate in any way. You will muddy the waters.
Let her post her little nastygrams on your facebook blog.
Let her send any nasty e-mails to you all she wants.
Let her post her little video on YouTube
When you get a collection of nastygrams from her, then you can nail her by forewarding them as evidence to abuse to your e-mail provider, facebook, YouTube, her internet service provider (if you really want to kick her ass) and shut her down.
And the great thing about this is she won't be able to do anything about it because the law will be completely on your side.
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No, no. Don't do this. Don't retaliate in any way. You will muddy the waters.
Let her post her little nastygrams on your facebook blog.
Let her send any nasty e-mails to you all she wants.
Let her post her little video on YouTube
When you get a collection of nastygrams from her, then you can nail her by forewarding them as evidence to abuse to your e-mail provider, facebook, YouTube, her internet service provider (if you really want to kick her ass) and shut her down.
And the great thing about this is she won't be able to do anything about it because the law will be completely on your side.
I usually defend myself personally but then again what other people say don't affect me so I think your advice is the best if its really affecting her. Who knows but due to the lack of coherance of the whole thing (its rather painfully segemented as if the writer could not keep on track with one thought) besides the whole grammer and speling thing. Personally the more you go back and forth it will keep going people have a tendacy to keep going unless other factors are in place which makes responding undesirable hence why these kind of things are TOS violations. I think though the op said she hasn't been nice either if you report it and you've used facebook to say thing which can be verified they might ignore the report.
EDIT: rereading this it more looks like a call to arms. I guess because we share the same thing she is trying to make us believe its a NT VS. Aspie Issue. VIVA LA KATIE! .... sorry ....
LMAO! Thanks for the kind words, everyone! I like the way all of you think. Especially nonicknamedamnit and Silver_Meteor But I'm not gonna try arguing with the guy. Nothing I say will convince him of my innocence, so I don't see the point. Besides, I think the point will be better made face-to-face, where he isn't nearly as gutsy. Doncha' just love real life? XDDD Sometimes, at least.
Actually, DJ is a guy. And the youtube video was never made, but I called the other two girls who are involved out on it, so they haven't done anything recently. As far as I know, at least.
I've shown some comments he made towards me on Gaia (www.gaiaonline.com, my s/n is Teoka :3) to my counselor, and I'm sure I can get him suspended, if not charged under Virginia state law for cyber-harassment. AND my parents are gonna talk to his parents, who will probably be quite bitchy, to be honest. But having a tough-as-nails policy adviser for a mom and an extremely-educated lawyer for a dad has its perks ^_~
And yeah, I feel that this is a bit of a call-to-arms. They have been tormenting me because of aspects of my personality and behavior that are mostly attributed to my Asperger's. My emotional sensitivity and my meltdowns especially, in addition to my problems with empathizing. I dunno if my more eccentric behaviors are due to AS, but they don't like it, either. Regardless, they don't like a lot of things about me, many kinda trivial and none of their damned business. How I dance, who I've dated, my favorite animal (the fox, and yes, I feel I can relate to foxes. Mostly the behavior of kitsune in Japanese folklore)...you name it, they hate it.
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Actually, DJ is a guy. And the youtube video was never made, but I called the other two girls who are involved out on it, so they haven't done anything recently. As far as I know, at least.
I've shown some comments he made towards me on Gaia (www.gaiaonline.com, my s/n is Teoka :3) to my counselor, and I'm sure I can get him suspended, if not charged under Virginia state law for cyber-harassment. AND my parents are gonna talk to his parents, who will probably be quite bitchy, to be honest. But having a tough-as-nails policy adviser for a mom and an extremely-educated lawyer for a dad has its perks ^_~
And yeah, I feel that this is a bit of a call-to-arms. They have been tormenting me because of aspects of my personality and behavior that are mostly attributed to my Asperger's. My emotional sensitivity and my meltdowns especially, in addition to my problems with empathizing. I dunno if my more eccentric behaviors are due to AS, but they don't like it, either. Regardless, they don't like a lot of things about me, many kinda trivial and none of their damned business. How I dance, who I've dated, my favorite animal (the fox, and yes, I feel I can relate to foxes. Mostly the behavior of kitsune in Japanese folklore)...you name it, they hate it.
all she said was that there was no asperar syndrome and she is technically correct :: snickers::. How here comes my words of advice ... (as I wait for the resounding oh nos and running) if somebody doesn't like you for whatever reason who cares? Think about this a minute this DJ person can't spell he apparently likes to press caps lock alot. He apparently feels like everyone "sh*ts" on him because he says thats why he is reacting the way he does. He is damaged goods so no matter what your problems are they are really irrevelant because what he can say "oh you have more problems then me." Love yourself love your quirks because in this world only thing you have that is 100% reliabile is you. Who cares? we all have our problems and in my experience problems equal out. You have emotional meltdowns, he has paranoia. I nthe end love yourself because hes just trying to prey off your fears of inadquency and such if you love yourself it wouldn't matter.
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I have a quote I'd like to put up here that I have used and recite on NTs who just don't get it,
*Ahem*
"You filthy slime, how dare you think of some of our limitations and difficulties as cop-outs, if you can prove to me that you are a better person, no, a better person without some of your own problems, prove to me just how "Normal" you are, I'll shut the hell up! but as far as I'm concerned, you will never be anything but a fithy, useless, disgusting piece of intolerant NT garbage." - Invictus
Feel free to use it on any NTs that give you troubles,
You are in a lot of ways superior to them, you have a higher mental capacity and can catch on to things much faster.
Don't let their ignorance get to you.
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-Rexmas talking about Rexmas
*Ahem*
"You filthy slime, how dare you think of some of our limitations and difficulties as cop-outs, if you can prove to me that you are a better person, no, a better person without some of your own problems, prove to me just how "Normal" you are, I'll shut the hell up! but as far as I'm concerned, you will never be anything but a fithy, useless, disgusting piece of intolerant NT garbage." - Invictus
Feel free to use it on any NTs that give you troubles,
You are in a lot of ways superior to them, you have a higher mental capacity and can catch on to things much faster.
Don't let their ignorance get to you.
:: shrugs :: I dunno if I have AS or not but I've been liking the new phrase I made up out of boredom.
" Noone wants to be atypical so why be neurotypical?"
*Ahem*
"You filthy slime, how dare you think of some of our limitations and difficulties as cop-outs, if you can prove to me that you are a better person, no, a better person without some of your own problems, prove to me just how "Normal" you are, I'll shut the hell up! but as far as I'm concerned, you will never be anything but a fithy, useless, disgusting piece of intolerant NT garbage." - Invictus
Feel free to use it on any NTs that give you troubles,
You are in a lot of ways superior to them, you have a higher mental capacity and can catch on to things much faster.
Don't let their ignorance get to you.
:: shrugs :: I dunno if I have AS or not but I've been liking the new phrase I made up out of boredom.
" Noone wants to be atypical so why be neurotypical?"
_________________
"No, It's cool. I'm a Godling with a PS of 46 and ranks in wrestling. I can suplex a minotaur to death. It's pretty rad."
-Rexmas talking about Rexmas
*Ahem*
"You filthy slime, how dare you think of some of our limitations and difficulties as cop-outs, if you can prove to me that you are a better person, no, a better person without some of your own problems, prove to me just how "Normal" you are, I'll shut the hell up! but as far as I'm concerned, you will never be anything but a fithy, useless, disgusting piece of intolerant NT garbage." - Invictus
Feel free to use it on any NTs that give you troubles,
You are in a lot of ways superior to them, you have a higher mental capacity and can catch on to things much faster.
Don't let their ignorance get to you.
:: shrugs :: I dunno if I have AS or not but I've been liking the new phrase I made up out of boredom.
" Noone wants to be atypical so why be neurotypical?"
I bet its a long and big story its kind of amazing that they keep it up with all the storylines. I commonly go over my old psychologist's heads with my overanalyzing and stuff now I just see a therapist at school and she commonly needs a summary and she is seemingly amazed by how far I analyze into simple situations.