The ridiculousness continues.

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My mom went to Rehab for alcohol abuse 18 days ago. She called us yesterday to tell us she's going to be there for another month. My dad left her about two years ago, but distant family members asked him to move in while she was gone. We all voiced that we didn't want him to (his abusive personality is a big part of why our mom started drinking in the first place).


I'm the first one up in the morning so I didn't experience this but... He decided to wake up the people who've been dis-respectful to him this last week by pouring water on their heads/faces. My dads done a lot of messed up stuff before, but I feel this is well past the normal levels of abuse. CPS closed their case against my family last week, now I almost wish they hadn't... I am seriously considering fighting my dad, I feel that there is no excuse for the way he's acting, and that he might genuinly need to be beaten. He never listens to reason, he's always been a super-insensitive person who loves to over-react to stuff. He loves to make everyones entire lives about how they treat him.


What should I do? My instincts tell me that even though he's also my boss, I should either fight him, or in private tell him that I will kill him in his sleep. I don't normally have these feelings. But I feel that he is seriously traumatizing his family. He loves the if one person is wrong, he punishes everyone thing. One of my younger sisters didn't want to do the dishes because she had done it the night before. He unplugged the internet and told us he was going to stop paying for it if we were going to continue to dis-respect him.


He punishes us at every chance we get, but he doesn't give us anything when were right (or anything at all). My sisters use to get money for lunch at school, he did it the first week they were back. Now he says there dis-respectful and doesn't give them money, so they would starve but the same relatives that asked him to move in found out and now secretly give my sisters money for school (something that would really piss him off).


I feel that what he's done goes beyond all levels of ridiculousness. I'm thinking about quitting my job for him and getting anything that pays the bill. Might even live out of my truck, nothing is worth listening to the way he talks to and about us.

Having come from an abusive home, I can tell you that the longer you allow this to continue, the harder it will be to break away.

Before you report the abuse to the authorities try to do a couple of things --
(1) Get documentation of the abuse. It's really scary when the authorities think you're just mad because you got grounded and then leave you alone with the parent again.
(2) Don't do anything like threaten your dad. If he spins it to the authorities that you're the dangerous one, then your siblings will be left alone with him when he's most angry.

With your mom is rehab you will probably need a relative who has stable income to step forward and petition for temporary guardianship of your siblings to keep them out of the foster care system. And of course start looking for a new job now if you can.

Good luck and stay strong.

Call DOCS or whatever you local child abuse agency is.

It must not be allowed to continue.

You've got concrete examples now, so you can make it clear that you don't want him looking after you.