Ever felt like you're being ignored?

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Very few people my age have similar interests.

I've always been interested in geology (it's not my major, but I also took two Earth Science courses that featured geology predominantly), and I love animated sitcoms (though I'm a purist; The Simpsons is my favorite).

I would most likely be active in a topic you create.

I always feel like I'm being ignored. From my posts or threads on WP to conversations around the house or at school I'm always ignored; just merely an observer to what's going on around me.

Sorry about the double post.

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I feel ignored all the time, though it's kind of depressing, it also makes me feel like I'm a natural born ninja!

But it is better for a person to ignore me than to try to pick on me or say something insulting to me, because I will retaliate. If they cry: Mission Accomplished.

When did I become such a mean aspie?

I've always felt ignored espeacially by my peers. I really don't know why but it hurts my feelings. I guess it's because I don't date and I'm not that outgoing even though I'd like to be. It's like I'll read a book or watch something from the history channel and they find that strange. I guess I could understand but at least I respect their interests and ask about them. There's probably other things as well since I'm an aspie and their pretty much NT. By the way, I don't think all NTs are like this. It's just frustrating to try and connect to people.

It kind of hurts my feelings too. I do want to connect with people who want to connect with me, but nobody seems to want anything to do with me. Even when I find someone that wants to talk, they would rather to be talking to another NT will ditch me when they see one, and THAT hurts.

sniffle sniffle sniffle. Down with NTs.

That's why people like us need to stick together, MissConstrue. You were right when you said not all NTs are like that, but those that aren't are few and far between.

Sometimes it seems like I'm being ignored.

Only a person like me would respond to many of the posts I make. At first it was saddening, but I found it's a great method of weeding those out I'd never get along with anyway.

- D

Please listen to Social_Fantom. I know some/many Aspies/Auties have not known the deep pain of what he's relating, so please do not judge so quickly and harshly. For me, I have been deeply irreparably hurt. And, yes, I'm quite tough in my own way. Reserve your assessment. You do not know until you've felt it. And, no, I/he are NOT 'generalizing' about NTs (I do try to refrain) but this is just the reality. Certain NTs feel fully justified in assigning their convention, their judgment, on one who is different. Why is that? Do they not think? Their words hurt, as to their subsequent ignorant actions. Yet Aspies pay the price.

Ignored? Yes, it seems to happen all the time in social situations. Even when I go out (rarely) with friends/colleagues, I tend to be the one around whom the conversation ebbs and flows, whilst I sit quietly in the corner. If I do manage to break into the conversation, it's like I've commited some great faux pas, and the group goes deathly quiet as my sentence trails off into oblivion.

At work, it isn't that bad. I seem to have a reasonable relationship with many colleagues - but never in a social setting. I go to work; I interract (probably because I have to); I go home. There is no other real connection with them.

Uh that was a joke on my part, not on Social_Fantom. I do know the deep pain Social_Fantom is relating to. I already said mine and it's true. I think you took what I said the wrong way. Sorry if I offended anybody on this board. Geez.

Good advice, but there's one problem - most aspies don't like to initiate conversation. I know I don't IM/PM people, mainly because to me that's being too 'forward.' I'm not an assertive person, which is why I've only started one thread since I've been here (a few days now).

As someone else here said, the feeling of being ignored on a large forum like this one is an illusion, simply because there are so many threads. I'm used to being ignored on NT forums like my writer's groups & such, and I'm ignored for the most part on this one, too, perhaps because there are so many threads, or else it's my age, my nationality (American) & the fact that I tend to sound condescending when I don't mean to. Who knows? Like Tim_Tex, I have very few friends online and in real life. My problem stems from trying too hard to talk to people when I'm so bad at it that I might as well just give up.