Help with self harming?

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I want to stop, but then I don't have any other coping things. I don't have TIME for anything else! I'm so freaking busy all the time. I suppose WP is an alturnative, and it does help the bruises become less severe.

WP can be a great alternative. If you have something that's bothering you, go ahead and PM someone here. I'm sure they would love to hear from you and to help you.

I used to be a youth counselor and having gone through what I did I have a pretty good grasp of psychology so if you want some help in the meantime whilst you're waiting for a therapist let me know, I used to self harm a little and a friend of mine used to do it alot more than me but he's alot better with it now, he still does want to at times, and admittedly so do I, but I know it's not the answer and it's just about finding another way to manage things, that's why I'm taking up martial arts, all about focus and using your bodies energy, it might sound stupid but when you do it you can feel it and you'd be surprised how focused your mind can get from it, meditation also helped me in the past as well, I also have got high as well but I'm not suggesting you do that, however I use a legal high alternative now called Spice Gold which is a herbal mix of lotus flowers and marshmallow leaves etc which has a euphoric effect and is very calming, not saying its the best solution in the world but its better than harming yourself.

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However if somebody else is depressed, I take it out on myself...which sucks for both them (because I'm not so good at helping) and me (because there's that part of me that doesn't want to self harm)

Sometimes, folks don't need advice. No, sometimes folks just need to know that they're appreciated and that they exist.

That's true, but I can't tell the difference. I don't want to not give advice when it's not needed, but I don't want to bug people either!

YOU ARE NOT A PEST!! !

You didn't call me a pest when I asked.

I can't always tell the difference either. But, you don't just give advice, but also encouragement and, if needed, hugs and support. By you responding to negative posts with sympathy, empathy, and love, you are showing just how selfless you can be. You are a very special girl here on WP and we all love you and care about you!

I tend to agree with Yoshie, as I said before, inspite of your own problems you continue to help others all the time, including me, it isn't always about know what to say, i dont think you realise how much help you actually give people just by being their for them and if nothing else to just listen, alot of the time people just need to say things out loud to someone they can trust.

You need to give yourself a break really, i understand low self esteem i have it myself but you focus too much on the negatives of what you do rather than looking at the positives of it, like now you criticise yourself for giving and getting help instead of seeing how much you have helped others. Do you realise how much better i felt from saying what happened to me and realising that there was someone else that could understand how it felt on any comparable level? It wasnt so much anything that was said, just being listened to and understood helped alot and i think you need to give yourself more credit.

Comparing that I didn't have much time to help you, I'm very grateful for the nice comments.
It's nice to know that people care. It doesn't make me feel too much better, as nothing does when I'm really depressed, but I will try to focus on that instead of my ongoing misery.