Very angry rant about dateing!

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I have tried, really to get yet another man's attention, without luck. I shown off a glamour photo in another web sight where I was an underfed girl, not to mention 118 pounds. I got "your hot" from one gentleman. GREAT! #$W% dandy that it's because I'm thin. The rest of my life I grow up hearing "ugly" as a moment to moment theme from the opposite sex, and while I wasn't fat, I was the "ugly white girl" in school! (I had freakles and water steined teeth. That's about it really.) In my adult hood being over weight and watching male after male, crinkle his nose in disgust at me!

Little boys in school, used to make fun of me and put on the fake vommit act. They said my face looked like @#$%! I met a guy in my teens who wouldn't give my a single hello. I got the behavior that basicaly said "OMG your sister of hot. Your not, and I'll ignore you, even though I wine like a baby about needing a girl!" Another girl used to beat my up in the cafeteria due to jelousy in my looks! so.... What the hell?! Is it that only women think I look great? *confused*

He gave her oodles of attention. Me zero! I say hi, but I don't egsist! That one in my teens acted like he was soooo desperate! The jerk. It makes me SICK, comming in here and seeing "I'll never settle for a fat ugly chick." Fine with me! I won't settle for them either, because their attitude turns me off.

The only guy who ASKED me on a date, wanted sex. He was ten years older than me. I dumped him, because I was not ready, not because of looks. I didn't go force myself to 'deal with him" like at least two guys I met already have done to me. I just had a little get together with a male who claims we're friends. Gee, if what I say is meaningless, then HOW? One other guy I gave attention to, gave his all to my sister! My sister AGAIN! Despite her clear warnings that she didn't have interest in him! Her friends, and some of the church congregation looking at me n pity, but setting her up with guy A or guy B. NO MORE DAMIT! No more! I have had it!

I look in the mirror, and WHERE is the ugly?! WHERE! What the hell is the problem?! I don't get it! How do I see a deva and everyone else sees mega ugly!? How many times do I really need my faith in friendship and such to be prooven WRONG to me before I keep sticking myself back into it? I'm tired of trying to be good only to get what I hate out of it. I'm so stupid. I won't bother anymore. I need to accept the hermit life style that nature forces onto me!

Sounds like a rough ride. if i were you, i'd get my money back and a new ride.

From what i could read, i dont think you're ugly. you may not be perfect, but then again, who is? perfection certainly aint somthing to strife for. the people you have met sounds like they have been given a brain by mistake, when a spine would be more than sufficient. they judged you for somthign you couldnt help. and failing to see your personality.

The dating blame topic

I must be of the old fashioned generation. I would never meet a potential mate over the internet. I prefer to meet in person, but because of my reticent nature, most of my dating encounters have been random. I guess the mating urge in my case is related to wanting to reproduce, and then the thrill is gone.

I realize that the young people want to connect. Is there not another sort of human encounter group out there where like minded young people can meet?

At 30 YO, the trauma of school is past. IMO you need to stop looking for a “date” and just live your life. When you wear your heart on your sleeve, you are an instant target for defective, hostile guys whose greatest thrill is to humiliate some woman.

Get out as often as possible. Volunteer at Habitat for Humanity (if you have any mechanical skills) or at any of a dozen other organizations. You will meet people naturally. They will see you for the person you are; some will like you, some may not. But from the pool of those who do you will have a good chance to form stronger relationships.

Ok. Thanks everyone... again.