Is it always gonna suck this much or does it get better?

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High school right now is terrible. One of my best friends tossed me aside because I won't do weed, my grades absolutely suck and I'm in a little bit of danger of failing 11th grade, I can't tell if this girl likes me and she's my only prospect, and since my parents got divorced in June, my mom can't really afford the upkeep too well on this house. My favorite thing to do right now is sleep and the only thing I'm looking forward to until school ends in June is my birthday next month. I've never been so depressed in my life.

Will life always suck this much or does it ever get any better?

i recognize myself in that. my parents divorced right in time for my 1st year of school, i was then bullied continously for the next 9 years, also undiagnosed since my mother always thought that it was nice and fine that i was as hopelessly awkward as ive always been

i became extremely depressed around your age, and it kept up till i was around 19-20, but then i begun really coming to terms with myself. there is nothing i can do about the world, and therefore, theres nothing to be depressed about.
know yourself, "find" yourself, and hopefully you will accept yourself and the world your in, at least to a degree where you wont be depressed anymore.

It gets better. You could not pay me enough to make me go back to High School.

QFT

DO NOT SMOKE WEED! or drink or whatever. that's for losers (and we have some of those here on *P) now life is supposed to suck when you are 16. everyone of us were depressed like you when we were 16. high school = a destructive, depressing ordeal. get your diploma, get a job, any job, and you'll be a very happy confident man. it gets better after 18, and being 20 is kick ass, trust me. you won't believe the transformation.

Sounds really ruff, hang in there - things change
forget about the weed for now, you`re not missing
anything, but your friend probably is missing out
on alot, because of the weed - might not look like
it now but hang in there, dont let anyone push you
and you`ll see it later - Wish you the best of luck

Oh, I agree! Yes, it definitely gets better. The confluence of hormones, immaturity, and stupidity you're experiencing in high school will never resurface in your adult life.

Unless, of course, you go into politics

BTW, I grew up in the DC suburbs - quite a long time ago - so can empathize (as well as I am able) with you and your situation!

oh, and I have never used the math that I was forced to repeat and repeat and repeat, either!

Merle

Actually, Merle, I have used the math a lot my entire life. Depends on what you go on to do I guess.

Thanks for this thread, the other day my mother and teachers were all trying to "solve" my problems by saying, "That's life, it's always going to be like that, you just have to deal with it." WTF kind of motivation do they call THAT?! That doesn't make me want to do anything, that makes me want to jump off Scarborough cliffs. But I'm glad you guys said it gets better after high school!

High school is supposed to be the best years of our lives, apparently. Well, I'd hate to see the worst...

I'm not 100% sure this is going to help, but I'm gonna try to offer a few words of encouragement here...

I can certainly relate to much of what you were saying. Sounds a lot like my own life in High School. Few friends (none of which I kept in touch with after graduation), a lot of my classmates drank, and no "prospects" (which meant no going to formals as going stag was highly discouraged at my school.) I also had to deal with some nasty bouts of depression myself in that time. I think it's awkward for most people in their teens - even a lot of NT's that have the "audacity" to not conform, I think.

What are some of your interests/hobbies? Are there any groups or clubs at your school that might work well with some of them? If not, maybe you could start one. It would give you something to look forward to at least.

Hang in there, and try to get your grades up for sure - you start slipping now, and you will likely have some explaining to do to college admissions advisors (assuming you are planning to go to college, of course.) It may not seem like it now, but it can get better. I won't lie, there are going to be some off times, too. I'm going through a bit of that myself - even in my 30's. But I will also say this:

Life is like a roller coaster. There are ups and downs, fast parts and slow parts. What matters is being able to look back at the end and say that it was a good ride.

Saw this thread and figured I share some thoughts before I go to bed. Hope you can take away something positive out of it.

Kristov

PS - Stay away from the weed, man! And everything else!

Great, progress reports just came out and I'm failing three classes. Spanish I am doing my work but our teacher quit and all we have is douchebag substitutes so I guess I'm inevitably going to fail that since my work isn't being credited. English come up with this project I'm doing. And Computer graphics is a lot of artistic work, which is not something I'm good at. If I don't fail this year, I might fail next year for lack of graduating credits. It would appear I am almost doomed to get a GED like my brother because of this worthless graduating credit system and my lack of initiative get get things done. I don't even care at all anymore, I just want out of this miserable sh!thole. I had a job lined up for this summer and the whole year working for the school but I have to be a senior to do it. Once the sh!tstorm starts, it never stops.

The girl I like was looking at me a lot when I was just standing at the printer. But I just saw her leaning on her BF though and she kissed him on the cheek and my eyes started to water

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Once you overcome highschool - arguably the worst period with the added puberty, social requirements and work demands - it gets easier. It is still very hard though. Every day is hard.

It gets better. You're probably at the worst point for social cliques, and stupidity.

but watch and learn, you will find the same games and players when you enter the work force, for that is where they learned how to be was in highschool.
keep your eyes and ears open and what you learn to avoid now will come in handy later in life.

Merle