Embarrassed to be here

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My life can be so embarrassing. Don’t get me wrong, I’m actually rather successful in spite of myself. I have a career, live independently and at times feel quite OK. But then I have these embarrasing moments and then, worse yet, have flash backs to them.

Like the time in a restaurant when I went to shake a bottle of ketchup to mix the watery stuff on top and because I didn’t put the top on tightly I sprayed an innocent couple with ketchup.

Or the time, after having sex with this really cute chick – that I really liked - I saw her at a party and she laughed at me and went off with some other guy.

Or the many times when I’ve continued to talk while eating and sprayed food – yuck.

Or the time at a dance after drinking a few beers I went out to the parking lot to take a whiz and as I finished realized that couples were sitting in their cars making out and they all turned on their lights and honked their horns. (Actually, that one is kind of funny).

Or the millions of times saying the wrong, stupid thing.

It’s painful enough to have these types of experiences but to keep torturing myself by remembering them WTF?? Any ideas?

Drink whiskey. It will help you forget... Just kidding.....I'm staring at the screen, trying to give you real advice, but I think I already have.....

Well, I have done this too.About the only advice i can give is the past is history, thats why its passed. As for the girl, cant help the stupidity of some people. Food and talking never mix, so take your time to chew/swallow then speak (for some reason people like to ask a question just as you take a bite. Remember the question, chew, swallow, then answer). Learn and move on is all you can do. Its like the old joke, "'Doc!! My arm hurts when I do this!!' and the Doctor replies, 'Well don't do that.'" (pretty much if a potentially embarrassing scenario repeats itself, dont repeat the original mistake).

don't be

Listen if I named every embarassing moment I've had I would just beat myself up until I was depressed. You have to keep moving, keep yourself busy and don't give yourself time to dwell on your social mistakes. The world is a big place and you will find yours.

The best thing I ever learned was how to laugh things off. Trust me nobody is lying awake thinking about how you sprayed food on them-they're too busy thinking about themselves.

"That's right."

Thanks all for your replies. Nice to know someone cares.
Aimless – specially would like to learn to laugh at myself. Luckily I’m now dating a woman who is really good at that, so maybe it will rub off.
PD – like you said also need to remember to let it go, move on.
FC – good one : )
OP – right.
Guess I don’t need therapy, just common sense like a BBW…

Well, I'd say that those aren't too terrible to have happen. Those were just mistakes that people can make. In the situation with the girl, SHE was the @$$ not you. That kind of thingcan happen to anybody.

When I screw up and embarrass myself and it's a mistake type thing I try and laugh it off. That does help it seems. It shows the other people around that I didn't mean to do it and at chuckeling at myself I'm acknowledging my screw up, but that I'm good natured and meant no harm. Usually when I do something really embarrassing it's when I get REALLY UPSET and have a meltdown. Funny thing is, I wasn't diagnosed till maybe the late 90s or early 00s by a therapist I had been seeing for anxiety for a year or two and up until she EXPLAINED about being overwhelmed and just NOT ABLE to control it sometimes, my family mainly called a meltdown "Oh, she's just acting an a**" I get VERY embarrassed after for days and I've actually ended up in JAIL for a few days for things like that before (never did TIME, my family just wouldn't get me out right away, got a fine at court). It's the times after the meltdowns, or whatever anybody wants to call them that are the worst for me.

One thing to remember though is this, and it's true. Your worst embarrassment is no more than someone else's passing amusement. I'm sure I've seen people do or say embarrassing things many times and if I thought about it, I could remember them, but I'd have to REALLY THINK about it, and even then the most reaction I would have is just a smile.

PaganMom