Do you keep your emotions to yourself?

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No I don't share my emotions. I don't really know how to. I don't tend to think in terms of how I feel. Emotions are low down on my list of priorities. I had one therapist who told me that this keeping my emotions bottled up was making me ill. So she helped me work out how I was feeling about things at the time.

But who would I tell about how I feel. I had to tell my boss that I needed time off to go and see a therapist my doctor had referred me to and that was really hard. I often feel like other people will not understand my emotions. Possibly because it seems that my parents don't.

For example my little sister was upset that she had not been invited out for a meal with people she knew. Some of her friends had been invited, but she had not. She was feeling upset, but our Mother didn't really register that and shouted at my sister and gave her a reason that she had not been invited. My Mother was not so much angry at my sister, but angry at the person who had left her out, but what she should have done was acknowledge how my sister felt. My sister will only discuss her emotions with her fiance (which I'm quite glad about because it means that she has finally found someone she can talk to). I used to worry about her because she is very dismissive of emotions. So in my family, no one really knows how to deal with emotions so what hope have I got?

I normally keep my emotions to myself when I don't feel secure, I would only tell the person who I tend to trust and who I feel most safe with.

I normally keep them to myself, faking expected emotions in public (mostly works but I can't do a handful of them), often hiding them deeper. It seems to work but when I do finally snap, I do quite violently snap, often around the time of a hormonal disturbance.

I kinder feel bad about it, but I can't help it.

Yes, but not always intentionally. It's taken me a long time to realise that, and a lot of times getting upset that people didn't care when I wasn't okay thinking I wasn't trying to hide anything. Apparently you can kind of tell with the "spark" in my eyes but most people don't pick up on that. I sometimes open up to people emotionally but it's heavily logically analysed and planned first not a spontaneous or natural phenomenon.

Hell no.

I usually keep mine bottled up as well as I have this tendency to break down when emotions are overstimmed (ie, taking something personal, or something strikes a chord leading to crying). Thats why i have a tendency to play games a lot . . . helps me vent, and keeps the more "negative" thoughts out of my head (thank the powers for hyperfocused, single-mindedness ).

No I can't hold them in. They just burst out of me.
Some emotions are what causes meltdowns and tantrums.

Since I'm barely aware of what I'm feeling unless it's a very strong emotion; yes, I keep them to myself.

My emotions are misinterpreted most of them time. Smiles are shown when I'm stressed and usually no emotion when I'm happy or content. When I'm worried I'm sort of torn between wanting pity and wanting to be left alone and so I just smile hoping things will be fine; out of all the times to get emotions perfect.. I get it right for the wrong thing, if that at all makes sense.

I find sharing my emotions just gets people to dismiss me quickly which just makes me feel insignificant.
I won't let emotions get the best of me, but when I've been in situations of despair then yes.

Almost always. Usually, the only time they surface is when they get too overwhelming, and I fall into depression. Then, it's obvious that I'm miserable, but I still pretty much keep them too myself. That's when i withdraw from everything, and don't say much to anybody, until I'm done processing all the crap that's bothering me.

Yes

Yes, because mine do not match the world around me. So I remain detached and deal with their problems. Keeping the ball in their court works.

My actual emotions come out a bit strong, too much for most to deal with. I can just make fun of them.

I like the character Duckman, he vents adn rants, then suddenly becomes calm.

Emotions are things to be expelled, or see the humor in, for having them and keeping them is not good, a burden on self I can do without.

Since I show none, some prod me, to get any reaction, when that door opens they usually run.

Strangely, when I do express myself, many have agreed with me, something we share, that they would never express.

While most live in mild emotions, some use them as a weapon, putting an emotional burden on all around. When I open up on them the level goes way up, they are flooded, overwhelmed, just as they have been doing to everyone else. Those around smile when they see them get some of what they have been pushing on everyone else.

Emotion is the least studied, least defined part of human, and other animals.

As their main use is a subdued and subversive form of aggression, like eye contact and body language, bringing it out in the open is seen as not playing the game.

I find it to be more important to most than a statment of intellect. They need it in small doses. Sometimes whole behavior complexes cannot be expressed, but emotions can fill the gap, bring change, that no ten page report could.

I try for detachment, but for many, I am cold toward them, they need to be loved, hated, something, but not indifference.

They are all touchy feely, need acknowledgement, emotional support, all day every day forever, and ever, and I am like the Borg, ignoring everything that is not part of my task. That which gets in the way of my task is dealt with, full focus, removed, so I can continue my task.

Our systems are not compatable, but I have learned it is easier to pay them some attention.

Sticky subject for me.

I was in a long-term relationship where my exGF constantly discouraged me expressing any issues I had with her for the sake of her own ego. As anyone who might take their relationship seriously, I complied, feeling as though it were a peace-keeping compromise. I knew I was prone to having tantrums and mood swings, so I just bottled it up, which led to more tantrums and mood swings.

These days, I still bottle up everything. Any emotionality I show to people is usually met with some type of disgust or disappointment, because I look like a strong dude I guess. Being out of sync and having no one understand is painful, so I sweep it under the rug and remain stone-faced. At best, nobody notices.