Cousin upset me

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Went shopping yesterday with my cousin and her son and my friend with her 2 girls. I had a great day and fooled around with the kids who also had a great day. My cousin and friend kept telling me off (lightheartedly) for winding the kids up. They were worried that the kids would be bored so I decided to keep them entertained. So instead of them moaning about boared kids they kept moaning at me for keeping them entertained and winding them up - although I didnt think I was winding them up because we were having lots of fun.

Anyway, we get home and me and the kids watch a movie and are comletely quiet for over an hour. After the movie the kids wanted a little play fighting, and I never really say no, so the 'adult' moaning started again. My cousing was gettin really pissed off and said 'and dont tell me its your imaginary disease (she meant disability) which is all made up in your head, your just f*****g annoying'.

I told her that she has no trouble accpeting things like fixing her PC, laptop, phone, the kids xbox and helping her decorate and that she has to accept all parts of me... I am a whole person - I am Asperger's - it is not a seperate thing from me... it is me!

I left soon after as I could net believe that she could say something with so much predjudice and anger.

My brother said something so similar just before his wedding (which he made clear I was not invited to BECAUSE of my Asperger's) and now we dont speak - not that this is a great loss - so if my cousin refuses to accept me, or at least understand me... then I feel I may loose her as well.

Its hard being an Apsie sometimes. I am quite surprised and how much what my cousin said has hurt me though as usually it doesnt bother me.

I am sorry that they don't have a clue about your AS condition, seasparrow. However have you thought it is not you, it is what you are doing that pisses them off?

Consider what those children would have had to do had you not been along.

They would have had to 'mind their manners'.
They would have had to 'entertain themselves'
They would have had to 'endure the boredom' of shopping.

and the next time they go shopping without your accompaniment the parents are going to have to hear complaining of the children 'when we went with Seasparrow it was SO much FUN" "Why don't you play with us like Uncle Seasparrow did?" "But Unca Seasparrow played with us after the movie!"

In other words, you put the parents into a bad light because you only had the kids to focus on, when the parents had the shopping, the schlepping, the budgeting, the time, etc., etc., and they are going to have to deal with it as the 'bad guy' with the kids.

This was pointed out to me one time when all the kids LOVED it when Auntie Sinsboldy went shopping with them, but the parents never invited me back and what I just let you know is what is what they told me.

Merle

Cheers Merle. I will wait till she gets in touch then say my peice, especially that I will not tolerate comments like that again!

My cousins have upset me, many times, during my life.

I was often sent to my cousin as my mother didn't know what to do with me and she wanted me to socialize.
My cousin is a very vain person and very selfish unless he has something to gain from it, he would often belittle me and train himself on me.
I never bought it though because I've always felt sorry for him in a mild way but he still had his field days when ever I would come visit which was quite often.

Family, don't you just love them. They make my stomach all warm and tingly,... oh, no wait I think I have to throw up.
*runs off*

lol

for UK people I can recommend this site - http://www.stophateuk.org/ as they are doing a lot for disability hate crimes and would love to hear any stories