I feel very powerless

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I am very stressed right now for a multitude of reasons.

1. I am upset that I am unable to help a friend who I am afraid is going to throw her hopes and dreams away to chase a guy around who she has not dated long enough to make long-term plans with, and who she is dating for very selfish reasons. Where she was once an open, friendly person, she had become a closed-in hermit after she started dating him. She has closed herself off from nearly all her friends, and possibly even her family, likely out of fear that their advice will result in her losing her "dream guy", and she refuses to listen to anybody.

2. It has been over 4 months, and I still haven't found work. I have applied to probably 100 jobs by now, and I had only one interview, only to not get that job.

3. I feel like I have been priced out of all the good cities in the U.S., and that I will be permanently trapped in Texas unless I win the lottery. Also, I am worried that Gov. Perry will reinstate the sodomy laws, and ban alcohol, music, and dancing.

4. Even if I got rid of the criteria for a partner, I still feel like I am the type of guy people just settle for when they can't get anyone else.

welcome to adult hood. if we only knew how much it really sucked

1. Nothing you can do. some people have to learn life's lessons the hard way.

2. With a 10% unemployment rate you're not alone on that one. I haven't had a job since July and have gone back to school. Fortunately the state is paying my tuition since I qualify as a displaced worker.

3. You have more important things to worry about now.

4. We have already beat this issue to death.

I wasn't settling, but I am worrying that people would be settling for me.

Ok I guess I missed the clarification. When put into that context of "I'm just the guy who people will settle for as last resort" then I see your point.

And Taupey does have another point, people who do that usual develop bitter feelings. A friend of mine for example is in a similar situation where he and his girlfriend are probably not the most attractive people in the world but its turned into a revolving door relationship because in their minds they are the only people who they could "settle" on. The result is that she gets cranky very easily when things don't go right, goes through pouting and just makes my poor friend's life hell from being needy and him not able to do anything about it due to circumstances beyond his control. It was inevitable despite all the things we did that the relationship would go south and it did recently. So now they are currently on break but I worry that it will start up and continue the cycle again. Oh well, I don't have control over people's choices in the end.

Taupey, sorry I got mixed up.

Okay. I'm just trying to show him he is not as powerless as he thinks he is.

For the records, yes, this is the same friend that I mentioned before, who didn't want to give/receive encouragement or emotional support, or endure burdens or inconveniences.

I am seeing a therapist about these things, and I may be volunteering at one of the radio stations in Houston soon.

For the records, yes, this is the same friend that I mentioned before, who didn't want to give/receive encouragement or emotional support, or endure burdens or inconveniences. And she leaves relationships when things don't go 100% her way, and has no regard for other peoples' feelings.

Cities that have a climate I might like, and the type of people I might want to meet include places like Seattle, San Francisco, NYC, etc., that I would never be able to afford.

As for relationships, I have trouble reading the hints and social cues that NTs sometimes give. Yet finding an Aspie in or around Houston, Texas who can handle being out of a routine long enough to go on a big vacation, has a high sex drive, and eventually wants a family is going to be very difficult.

When I mention being a Christian and a Republican, I feel that people are secretly trying to link me to Pat Robertson or Fred Phelps. On the other hand, I think that practicing abstinence until marriage should be illegal (but I don't think religion should be banned).

I am seeing a therapist about these things, and I may be volunteering at one of the radio stations in Houston soon.

Tim Tex, good luck with getting your friend to listen to you about that guy. I've tried to talk to my former best friend about her relationship issues but she never took my advice because I came off as somewhat crazy even though mentally I was accurate about how sour this relationship was gonna go.

But hey you may have a saner reputation around your friends than I ever did. You might get lucky.