Well, now the worst possible thing has occured, freedom-wise

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You see, one of my primary reasons for getting my own apartment was so that I could get as far away from my family, ESPECIALLY my father and brother, as possible.

However, a series of unfortunate events in my life started last week....the moment that Dave (my brother in question) got approved for Section 8 housing, meaning that he'd get help from the government when it came to moving out and getting his own apartment. And it gets worse.

For the last few months, he'd been joking with me about when his section 8 rolls around, he'd wanna move into MY building so that he'd still be close to his 'favorite big brother'. Well....this is the same brother who last year, said how much he'd delight in gleefully crushing my throat with his bare hands until the life ebbed from my eyes! (Yes, I never let go of ANYTHING! What's your point?)

Well, in a true MOTHER OF BAD TIMING....an apartment in my building complex juuuuust happened to become vacant...1 week BEFORE he got his Section 8. You bet your ass he knew about it, and yesterday...oh god...

He had a talk with my landlord over the phone, and he's going to be showing the vacant apartment to him tomorrow morning! The same morning, just to pour salt into the wound, that I come back to my apartment after a 3 day stint in the old homestead.

I KNOW that there's a 99% probability that David will take that apartment after the tour is over...and that means the END.

The end of my independence. The end of my sanity. The end of the only privacy I've ever gotten for 15 months of my long, pathetic life.

His new beginning is my end. Period.

Comments are welcome as always

Usagi1992

Last edited by Usagi1992 on 16 Jul 2010, 5:51 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Face him with this and make him realize your point of view.

Did you tell your landlord that you don't want this relative living in your building because they've threatened your life in the past? Tell the landlord that if they rent to him, you'll be forced to look for another place to live. If you're a good tenant, I'm sure they'd rather keep you than lose you and take a risk on an unknown stranger who threatens people.

Then tell your brother some horror stories about how the toilets occasionally back up into the sinks and the rats in the walls keep you awake at night.

Sounds like a psycho brother.

If I were in your situation, and had the resources. Id move to a different apartment complex or whatever and just simply cut off ties with your brother entirely, just to get a point across.

Actually you guys, I guess I needed to articulate something.

My brother isn't really the dangerously psychotic type; he just has Type I Bipolar, combined with manic-depressive disorder, AND Schizo-Affective disorder. If he makes threats on my life, he almost always makes sure he tells me, after he's calmed down, that it was just his anger talking.

No, the real reason why I dread his coming to my apartment building is that he's going to pester me eeeeeeeeeveryday, just to keep him company! He absolutely HATES being alone! A few months ago, he even snapped his laptop in half, simply because he was panicking from mom and dad leaving to go somewhere and not telling him when they were going, or when they'd get back! Can you imagine what he'd do if I wasn't here in this building with him? He'd have a f**king CONNIPTION from loneliness, that's what!!

*sighs* Well, I think I still have one hope: that the landlord gets a bad vibe from him, or is put off by his disgustingly huge body. And besides, his other meeting with section 8 isn't until next week anyway, so this doesn't mean he'll be moving in by tomorrow evening.

Usagi1992

Sometimes anger doesn't just talk. And an apology is not much use after someone has killed you by accident because they couldn't control their frustration.

So, your brother suffers from not only psychosis, but he also has Type I Bipolar Disorder, manic depression and cannot be alone at all.

That's always a recipe for disaster.

I have to agree with Willard on this one. Your brother is a danger to everyone around him. His words mean absolutely nothing because he will do it again since he knows he cannot control himself... and Usagi, you know it will happen again.

BTW, is he taking his meds?

"Type I Bipolar, combined with manic-depressive disorder, AND Schizo-Affective disorder. If he makes threats on my life, he almost always makes sure he tells me, after he's calmed down, that it was just his anger talking."

Say exactly this to the landlord. Tell him you don't want to live in the same building.

I particularly like the way you say, "If he makes threats on my life, he almost always ..."

It sounds like you've gotten very used to a terrible situation. Try telling the landlord the plain truth. Now. So the landlord can say it's already rented. Say what you have said to us.

And keep us posted - good luck!

Willard, Invincible and Claradoon are all absolutely right.

'Nuff said.

Um, I serious hope you're joking, Claradoon.

Even if I did tell Mr. Green (my landlord) everything you told me to say, and even if that does keep Dave away...

He's going to heavily suspect that I had something to do with it. Chalk up another trait onto his already large list of mental disorders: paranoia.

And the reason why I've gotten used to this terrible situation is because he's not always like that. When he's in a good mood, he can be quite happy and cheerful, and very forgiving of my stupid behaviours. Although with this cheerfulness comes a very dangerous case of 'Yandere', which means to become extremely possessive of a person you love. Almost every single waking moment that I'm in when visiting my old homestead is spent keeping him company because he's 'so depressed' and he 'misses me'. And on the rare occasions I've stood up to myself and said 'no thanks, I wanna have some alone time', he'll get VERY defensive and say stuff like:

"Yeah, busy playing with yourself, eh?"
"Oh, you petering out on me already? Whatever, do what you want."
"Jeff, just go home! Why do you even f***ing bother coming here to visit?!"

Um, why? Because he *PESTERS* me to come visit, because he misses me!

Yes, I know I'm in what you people would call a dangerous trap, but it would be made MORE dangerous if my brother ever suspected that I was responsible for keeping him from getting his independent freedom. Well, I shouldn't say that. There are OTHER apartment buildings that I'm sure would be just as good as mine. So *why* mine?

......because I happen to live here, that's why.

Just to inject a little humor, I can easily say that cats fit the definition of yandere at times XD.

No I'm not joking.

I once warned a landlord about a possible new tenant, and I was surprised that he rented the apartment to her. But three months later, she left. The landlord knew the law better than I do, and he gave her a short-term lease of three months, renewable by consent of both parties. By the time the three months were up, the landlord knew for himself and he didn't want this tenant and neither did anybody else. So she left, but never knew that anybody had warned the landlord.

You say that if your brother doesn't get the apartment, he'll know it's because of you, then your situation would be even more dangerous.

What if Mr. Green says that one's taken but there's another somewhere else? Why not talk it over with Mr Green, maybe he's seen all this kind of thing before and has experience in what to do?

Well, even if I did manage to get a hold of Mr. Green, it'll be AFTER his meeting with Dave. The meeting is TOMORROW at 9:30am EST.
And I usually sleep in on weekends.

Herein is my dilemma: my landlord doesn't come around to my complex all that much. He only comes by once a month to collect the rent checks at the beginning of the month, or on a special occasion, like interviewing a possible new tenant. I don't even know, what his phone number is, but even if I did, it wouldn't make a lick of difference if he's already interviewed my brother.

Claradoon.....I'm scared!! I'd rather just roll over and *die* then try and do anything about my own happiness. I've said it many times here on Wrong Planet, but I'll say it again:

My happiness does not come first; my family's does!

Unconditional love is a crock of s**t (at least, as it applies to me)

My life is not important. Please stop telling me otherwise.

Jeffrey, aka Usagi1992

Okay, how about Al Anon? There are groups for families & friends of people with various problems. Al Anon started out as being for families of alcoholics, but it has grown to include other families as well, because there are so many things in common.

Can you help yourself at all?

Well, there's always the Crisis Hotlines to call and ask for advice, hopefully constructive. As for myself personally, all I can do is drink myself stupid (on diet sodas) as I watch my peaceful, independent freedom go to the devil.

Usagi1992

Well, there's always the Crisis Hotlines to call and ask for advice, hopefully constructive. As for myself personally, all I can do is drink myself stupid (on diet sodas) as I watch my peaceful, independent freedom go to the devil.

Usagi1992

(sorry about the double posting)