Hope and Healing in The Forum

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Dear Professor, often I feel down in the dumps and I suppose it's seen in my posts and all yet, after reading this post I thought to myself that atleast this thread is very helpful and all..Yes, I've been dealing with Depression for 22yrs now and much has changed in my life over those many years both good and bad I've managed to maintain some sort of composure regarding my emotional content..Truly, I often don't post a great deal for at times, I've felt like most of my words are simply too incoherent or have no meaning to others here on Wp.Anyways, I'm just glad to have come across this thread..

It has been brought to my attention that there is a lot of self-pity being displayed on these boards.
Enough ALREADY ! !!
We ASpies have an 'invisible disability', we don't have guide dogs, we don't look 'handicapped', but we are.
HOWEVER, feeling sorry for yourself is not a solution ! !!
You have to concentrate on what you are capable of doing, and put aside what you are not capable of doing.
All of us have problems with social skills and relationships, but you have to try harder and learn the skills of conversation and eye contact and finding common ground with whoever is chatting with you.
Staring at your shoes and mumbling about star trek is not going to get you a sexual partner....
Likewise, insisting on being 'accomodated' isn't going to move you forward through life.

If this thread is what I think it is, then I need some healing myself. Hatred is starting to grow in me like a tumor.

I'm getting really frustrated at my parents. I remember when my sister and I would bicker all the time. Now, she and I see eye-to-eye and now both of us are beginning to hate our parents.

Dad has given me plenty of emotional scars throughout my life. Whenever we end up in an argument, everything I say is "disrespectful" or "bull****". He'll try to tell me how wrong I am and that he doesn't get through to me. He's arrogant, unsupportive, aggressive, and sometimes violent (he pinned me up, by the neck, against the corner of the wall when I was a kid). He'll downplay his own actions and tell me that I'm overreacting. He almost never apologizes for what he does (only has done it twice in my entire life). Now he's got me cornered as an adult on the basis of living in his house. I can't take care of myself yet. I don't have the money nor the means.

My mom has turned her back on me when I need her most. She's too busy watching her Taiwanese movies to notice the misery I'm going through. She gets angry at me and shoos me away with a flap of her hand and a shout or two. She doesn't appreciate anything I do for her (and she used to). What hurts me the most is that she doesn't even want to talk to me when I need sympathy (and she's my mom for god's sake). I worry that she's going to turn into Owen's mom from Throw Momma From The Train.

I can talk to my sister, but she's powerless to stop my parents. And so am I.

Hey guys - I don't want to be pushy here, but PLEASE can someone look at this thread (http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt134505.html) because things are really difficult for me at the moment and I would really, really, really appreciate some help

I was hopng tere would be some talk here about the 12-step programs.
Wanting to chat with people who have experience with any of these groups (AA, NA, OA..CODA etc.) who are not fanatics!

Anjie

Do most aspies self-medicate in order to function in the NT world?
Do you think it's okay to do this as long as your not physiologically
addicted to the substance your medicating with?

I'm not comfortable with book thumpers and black and white thinkers.
I was off of everything for 7 years at one time...Never had physical cravings
but missed the feeling of being more normal, less aspie, after a couple
glasses of wine...and a couple is all I wanted unless I was in an emotional
crisis.

People seem to like me better if I've had a couple drinks...I like me better too.
but I can stop at two unless I'm emotionally distraught. Does anyone else here
do this? (I do it with caffiene and [i]very [/i]occasionally ciggarettes, too).
I feel like if I even just have a glass of red wine once in a while, I will be ridiculed by
the 12 step community and yet I feel they are the only family I have, they keep me sane and alive. But then again they don't understand what it's like to be aspie.


Thoughts?
Input?

Hope of healing topic

I see no one has posted here since August, 2010.

This seems like a nice thread, a sticky. I hope it can help heal a needy person.

Everything about me and my life amounts to nothing. Read my posts.

Does anybody have any experience and tips/words of wisdom to offer about dealing with dyspraxia and executive functioning problems? How about that persistent irritability and frustration? I seem to expend far too much energy in trying to suppress that irritability and sometimes I feel that my brain never quite advanced past its infant/toddler years.
Lately I've also been feeling that my quality of life is not very good...it's been sh***y for a long time and I feel that it's just gotten worse these past months as the anxiety I'd spent years trying to overcome has returned with a vengeance. I checked myself into the psychiatric wing of the local hospital a couple months ago and even that brought me further down. Seeing other people who'd been admitted just made me wish I could swap lives with them...if my problems were that simple I'd be happy as a pig in muck.