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20 Sep 2010, 1:58 pm

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Your father should tell your brother to stop doing this.

Why hasn't he?

my father has. but my brother doesn't listen



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21 Sep 2010, 8:50 am

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i am really upset/ pissed off. my brother keeps calling me a ret*d and i can't take it anymore. we used to be friends, but he stopped being my friend because we got into a huge fight. we usually get mad at each other then foregive each other, but this was probably the biggest fight we've ever gotten into. anyway, he keeps on making fun of me whenever we see each other, and i keep telling him to stop, but he won't. then he shoves me and we get into a fight, and it is broken up by my father. he keeps on bothering me and i really don't know what to do


Join the club dude, I'm the same way with my brother...

He always calls me a ret*d because of my autism (as well as anyone else with autism...) and he is always cruel and mean to everyone in my family... I would love to move out of my house, but I don't have enough money, no job, and no other place to live...

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That is terrible! No one in my family has called me a ret*d to my face, but I'm sure there are those in my family that think it. My uncle and cousin look down me due to me not only have aspergers but learning disability. I don't have siblings either, but people at my job think I'm dumb too.

Have you said something back to your older brother? Have you told him his words are hurtful? He is the one with the issue not you. If we are dumb, then how come Dr Temple Grandin has a PHD? Obviously she's no dumb woman.


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21 Sep 2010, 10:25 am

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That is terrible! No one in my family has called me a ret*d to my face, but I'm sure there are those in my family that think it. My uncle and cousin look down me due to me not only have aspergers but learning disability. I don't have siblings either, but people at my job think I'm dumb too.

my family is exactly like that as well

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Have you said something back to your older brother? Have you told him his words are hurtful? He is the one with the issue not you. If we are dumb, then how come Dr Temple Grandin has a PHD? Obviously she's no dumb woman.

he's my younger brother actually. i have, he doesn't care. he is very cruel. he actually has ADHD which is why we got into the fight in the first place. he has a horrible memory, and i have a good memory. i said he got the facts wrong, he called me stupid and ret*d and stopped being friends with me. now we are enemies. honestly, he is too ignorant of autism to know what we are capable of.........



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21 Sep 2010, 4:17 pm

luvsterriers wrote:
That is terrible! No one in my family has called me a ret*d to my face, but I'm sure there are those in my family that think it. My uncle and cousin look down me due to me not only have aspergers but learning disability. I don't have siblings either, but people at my job think I'm dumb too.

Have you said something back to your older brother? Have you told him his words are hurtful? He is the one with the issue not you. If we are dumb, then how come Dr Temple Grandin has a PHD? Obviously she's no dumb woman.


He doesn't care, and if you "pick a fight" with him he just smacks or pucnhes people. I use to fight with him when we were kids, but now that I'm older and have been raised in an unusual way by my family, I cannot find myself fighting back at all against anyone ever again...



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22 Sep 2010, 6:32 pm

anymore suggestions?



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23 Sep 2010, 12:35 pm

Here is an idea...I once read in a book you should stand right up to them and say. Are you trying to hurt my feelings, well it is not working or is that the best you can do. Then just walk away...but watch your back.

You may need to practice a few time to be able to say it confident and stern enough to make the impact.

When you know he needs to cut you down to show power over you and to only make himself feel more superior. He has low self esteem or he is jealous of the attention you get.



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23 Sep 2010, 4:04 pm

Do something to hurt him back. If your dad wants to punish you, raise hell. Sometimes, it's worth it. Make him afraid to cross you again. Some people only respond to fear. Might as well find out if your brother is one of those people. Hide his things, threaten to punch him, whatever you know will work. He's your brother, you know him well enough to know his weaknesses. He's exploiting yours, so exploit his.



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23 Sep 2010, 5:22 pm

FireMinstrel wrote:
Do something to hurt him back. If your dad wants to punish you, raise hell. Sometimes, it's worth it. Make him afraid to cross you again. Some people only respond to fear. Might as well find out if your brother is one of those people. Hide his things, threaten to punch him, whatever you know will work. He's your brother, you know him well enough to know his weaknesses. He's exploiting yours, so exploit his.

first off, my father doesn't want to punish me, he just stops the fights. raising hell in my household never works, my brother does it quite often about everything. also, i could never be intimidating enough to make my brother afraid of me. he is not one of those people who responds to fear. he stopped talking to me finally. we just ignore each other and give dirty looks.



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23 Sep 2010, 9:05 pm

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guys, seriously help me out. i really am upset by this.


I know where you're coming from. I haven't spoken to my brother for almost five years because I am disgusted with the total lack of respect he showed for me or anyone else in my family. His whole mentality can be summed up in the following statement: "I don't care about your rights. If you can't make me observe them, I will act without regard or consideration for you".



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23 Sep 2010, 9:10 pm

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guys, seriously help me out. i really am upset by this.


I know where you're coming from. I haven't spoken to my brother for almost five years because I am disgusted with the total lack of respect he showed for me or anyone else in my family. His whole mentality can be summed up in the following statement: "I don't care about your rights. If you can't make me observe them, I will act without regard or consideration for you".

that is how my brother is



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23 Sep 2010, 9:17 pm

Yeah, just ignore him.

My brother was always putting me down when he was in high school and college. We've barely talked for the past few years, and just when things were starting to look all right, he did it again with the name-calling. This time, I'm not talking to him permanently. :thumleft:



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24 Sep 2010, 10:23 am

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Yeah, just ignore him.

My brother was always putting me down when he was in high school and college. We've barely talked for the past few years, and just when things were starting to look all right, he did it again with the name-calling. This time, I'm not talking to him permanently. :thumleft:

that's what i'm doing now.



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24 Sep 2010, 8:07 pm

UPDATE

ok, so my mother took away the laptop yesterday. so today i hid it. my as*hole brother gets involved, and i'm eventually forced to give it back. an hour later, the laptop is missing again. turns out as*hole took it himself. i found it and it turns out my mother puts a password on it!! !! !! my brother has been taunting me because HE knows the password. after 2 hours, my dad comes home and has a conference with my mother. she eventually squeals and tells my dad, who told me. i immediately go online and change it to a password of my liking. After my mom squealed, my brother starts fiiting, calling me a douchebag, an as*hole and a prick. I eventually yell at him. and we are both screaming f**k YOU to each other, and sticking up both of our middle fingers at each other. I am literally typing it 10 minutes after this is over. FML



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25 Sep 2010, 8:01 am

Betrayal is one of the greatest feelings a person can feel.



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25 Sep 2010, 12:45 pm

imbatshitcrazy wrote:
UPDATE

ok, so my mother took away the laptop yesterday. so today i hid it. my as*hole brother gets involved, and i'm eventually forced to give it back. an hour later, the laptop is missing again. turns out as*hole took it himself. i found it and it turns out my mother puts a password on it!! !! !! my brother has been taunting me because HE knows the password. after 2 hours, my dad comes home and has a conference with my mother. she eventually squeals and tells my dad, who told me. i immediately go online and change it to a password of my liking. After my mom squealed, my brother starts fiiting, calling me a douchebag, an as*hole and a prick. I eventually yell at him. and we are both screaming f**k YOU to each other, and sticking up both of our middle fingers at each other. I am literally typing it 10 minutes after this is over. FML


damn, you're brother's lack of discipline is disturbing... Does he have autism too?



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25 Sep 2010, 12:55 pm

So you two are screaming at each other, and what...? Your parents just stood there? And your mom spontaneously hid the laptop before that? Your story's getting hard to understand.