could really use some advice

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I feel like I'm going insane right now!
I live on my own and last night i was talking with my parents, my mom INSISTED that i sleep in my bed. I told her that i sleep on the couch because i have my alarm hooked into my surround sound system and its the only thing that wakes me up on time without me turning it off in my sleep due to my insomnia. She told me she would call me to wake me up. sure enough today I woke up and missed ALL of my classes (I'm in college) so i had to drive down there and beg with an instructor to hand in my assignment without losing marks. Now i freaking out. I already called her and screamed at her once. I have no idea how to handle this and i could really use some help on whats the appropriate way to deal with this. I feel like my skin is crawling and i know I'm about to jump off the deep end if I'm not careful Keep in mind my diagnosis is still pretty recent and i haven't told her about it yet. I don't know how to deal with this stuff, please help.

You're 23 and you live alone. Your mum means well, but I'd say stick to your routine (or get a mega-strength alarm clock).

Well, you know what to do, and if your mother says otherwise, rip her a new one as politely as possible.

Once you take responsibility for your own business, things will get much easier. You've already demonstrated that you can improvise solutions to meet your own needs - keep going with that. Living alone is a tremendous advantage in that respect and I suggest you take full advantage of it. Is it really necessary to tell people that you sleep on the couch? Or to discuss any of the other "quirky" solutions that you will employ in your private space to help you deal with your condition? It's your space, it's your life - take charge, organise it and make self-reliance the key to your own success. There's no need to be screaming at anyone.

On the question of insomnia, have you consulted a doctor? Is there anything in your routine that might be contributing to that? E.g., if you're drinking coffee or other caffeinated drinks at night, that might be a significant factor. Get that talented Aspie brain busy working on some solutions - it's more than equal to the task!

You're living under your OWN roof now, not your mom's. How you live your life is your business, not hers.

If she brings it up again (or anything else that has nothing to do with her), tell her that you know the right way to live FOR YOURSELF and that if she persists with her "advice" , you're hanging up. Then, if she does persist, do it.

Sometimes, that's all that works with some people.

You'e got to do what works for you, and not what works for your mum.