Am I extremely antisocial?

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I know people with AS a antisocial, but would you consider these factors an extreme case:

1. I spend all day in my computer room reading about my obsessive interests, watching Youtube, and educating myself on various things.

2. I rarely leave my house, and I only leave my computer room when I have to do a specific chore. (and for the obvious: food and restroom breaks)

3. I have little to no human contact on a daily basis, not even with my family.

Disclaimer: I am looking to do something with my life. I will probaly enroll in a community college in time for the fall semester.

Not really that big a deal. In my young days I got as close to that as I could,

Today I come as close to it as I can.

Well, I've been through phases identical to what you just described.

I'd say it resembles anti-social but it's more about having a great affection for special interests to the exclusion of other activities. I think truly anti-social people dislike and are aversive towards being social, whereas AS people are just so enamored by their special interests that being away from them (e.g. by attending social events) falls off their to-do list and becomes a very low priority.

Do any of those things bother you? If not, keep on going. Dealing with others crap is highly overrated. Being alone is highly underrated.

That list sounds just like me. I'm happy as a lark with a rib eye steak.

it doesn't make you anti-social, more like ''boring'' by NT standards.
seeing as by NT standards, when you aren't with people, you're not doing anything.

'' are you going out tonight? '' someone might ask
'' no just staying home. '' I answer
'' so you're not doing anything? ''
'' bye. ''

that's not anti social!! that's pure filtered boring-ness.

technically being anti-social is a dangerous personality disorder which manifests in criminal behaviors and suffering to victims of such people. You sound like you're not that social, which I totally relate to. I only come out to get something I need. The overwhelming majority of people are a bit less tolerant of people who aren't naturally sociable, but it's not a big deal. Just makes others a little harder to interact with sometimes cause they might take it personal.

Not at all. You are fortunate that you have special interests to immerse yourself in. Go for it, I built a career out of my obsessions. The problem is that NTs will tell you you need 'balance'. This makes you feel like there is something wrong with you. The real problem is that they don't understand what aspie life is like. Variety can be good sometimes but it's overrated. Learn to be comfortable in your own skin and pursue your own goals no matter how strange they may seem from the NT perspective.

As it was explained to me, antisocial is usually marked by a hatred of people. Antisocials prey upon people. A-socials would be social but can't. We do not hate or prey upon others. We would fit in if we could and often wonder about lonliness.

You sound a-social to me.

You are only extreme by NT definition.

Nope, that happens to me and many Aspies I know for days on end. But if it depresses you to be alone, I do strongly recommend human contact.

There is really nothing to fear. This is a game. Go out and use your talents. They will lead you on the right path. Just be open and try to represent unconditional love.

That’s me... I use to even adjust my sleep so that I was awake at night so i could be most productive through my special interest and a walking zombie in my day to day life. I have never lived alone but i do not doubt that if I did I will probably drop off the face of the earth and be completely happy. There is that tugging urge every now and again to join society and contribute in some way or another. I just don’t know if I will ever be able to kick the idea that in order to be productive and focused I need to be alone and undisturbed.

I do the same exact thing.

Do you feel content doing so though?

I pretty much do that everyday except for a 4 year period where I was more social and outgoing because I played football for my high school and attented a big time uni. Other than those 4 years I do exactly what you describe, except I talk to my family everyday at some point and see my friends a few times a week. im just around the house reading, wikipediaing, on here, playing video games or watching TV.