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Subject line describes exactly how I feel. Lonely with no self-confidence or happy feelings.
I'm 14 years old, I haven't been in school since September 2005. This is because I had some many negative experiences such as bullying, no-one talked to me, or did anything about the bullying. I feel isolated because I have no friends (and never have done really), my mum is helpful and does a lot for me but is about as affectionate as brick wall (I live with her, my step-dad and half-sister, she's the one I feel most comfortable with) and I have no-one else apart from her. I found out I had Asperger's last month, the hospital said that I shouldn't go back to school because I have had so many negative school experiences. The hospital are now doing nothing, as are the education system in general. So I'm worried about my education, I should be in a special school and there are none in my area.
Could anyone give me some advice or anything? Just about anything would help right now.
Thanks for reading

Have You Considered Home-schooling that might be helpful.

We have considered home-schooling but no-one at home has time. My step-dad has partially-sighted so my mum has to drive him to work and just about everywhere. If we did home-school then my mum would have no time for herself or to get other things done.

There should be plenty of support programs for people with developmental dissabilities available. I was able to get some help from the county I live in, but I couldn't say if other places are as helpful or not. Try doing some web searches and see if you can find anything.

It doesn't sound like education ranks very high in your family. It's not only about education. It's about becoming more isolated than you have to be, since a lot of what 'everybody' chats about starts there.

Is there such a thing as home-schooling at your level? I wonder if we could work on it with you. I could certainly teach you the English, and there must be math whizzes here too, and so on.

I'm not saying it would work, but it would be worth a try?

i left school at a young age due to similar problems. i can offer my sympathy at least.

also nico is top. i have her album "the marble index"

That sounds like an interesting idea, I'll be happy to work on it.

Thanks for the sympathy , I give you sympathy too for your bad experiences at school.
Nico is great I'm glad you like her too! As you guessed, I named myself after her. She's cool and she has a cool name

Was there ever a teacher that you liked? It doesn't matter what level. I'm thinking of finding an "insider" in the school system to help you figure out what to do, or how to do it.

Or do you already have a plan?

Over here in the States we have some relatively new charter schools that offer high school classes online. I wonder if there is anything like that in the UK? It sounds like more of a self-directed study situation, a bit like a correspondence course.

Not really. I have never found a teacher that has helped or understands me. I don't have a plan right now things may change though, my mum is doing all she can. She's looking for special schools, there seem to be none in my area though. She's also arranging for me to have speech and language therapy. The education department won't provide anything so it's just more work for us.


I do know what you are thinking of, but I don't think that they do that in the UK. I'm not 100% sure though.

You can learn a lot from text books on your own, maybe you could try that and just ask your mom for help every now and then when you get stuck or don’t understand something. In the US they have catalogs you can order home-school books from (abeca is a good brand); maybe they have something like that in the UK as well?

i dont know where you live, but if your lucky, you can do schooling through mail and/or email. its quite expensive, but its really quite pleasent. just hope your allowed to do that at 14..

also isnt it illegal not going to school?





also i have a friend who hasnt finished any year of school after age of 12 due to the same issues, yet hes quite intellectible and needs to do something with his mind, not his hands. he is now doing a 4 year studie plan of three different studies and then hes an accupuncterist, which isnt really a school but more of a homestudie and such. (coinsidently he also has pdd-nos)
so you see, everything can still work out fine eventually anyway.

I've been thinking of you. Whatever happens, at least you've found this community and you don't have to be alone.

I'm no expert on education in the UK but I know that in the United States every child has the right to a free and appropriate public education. This means that if you can prove (usually by having a documented disability) that you need special services, they have to give them to you.
I know that the UK education is different, but I wouldn't be surprised if they have something like this.

Someone at the last school you attended must be able to help you out some way. Maybe a counselor, if you had one at your last school?

Wish I could be more helpful. Good luck with whatever you try!

Anything new here? Where's Nico? How are you doing?

I'm right here!
Some new things, I went to visit a special school for people with an ASD near Liverpool (not really near me but they provide transport). I liked the school, the staff were great. To go to the school I need to have a statement, the LEA just turned me down for one so my mum is going to appeal in a tribuneral coming up at the end of the month.

I also have 2 appointments: one with a Cognitive behavioural therapist and another with a Speech and language therapist. So things are getting better, it's my 15th birthday on Tuesday and I feel great thanks, Claradoon.