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31 Jan 2011, 4:37 pm

they say she has a year to live if that. the copd has finally caught up with her.


please say a prayer for her to get well enough to go to Disney world one last time. it would mean allot to her.

also pray that i deal with it as well as can be expected for this type of thing.

I am sad but coping well. she is in the ICU now but i hope she gets well enough to come home before she dies. they say she has a 50% chance of coming home. other wise she has to be in a hospital type setting for the remainder of her life.

please pray she gets well enough to come home,and pray that she does not get a cold because if she does she will die from that and she wont even make it a year. and pray that she gets well enough to take a trip to Disney world. i want her to be happy for the remainder of her life.

thankyou to all of you who have been so supportive of me during my moms illness. wp has been a great help to me.

I am a little drunk when writing this so excuse any spelling errors and such.

thanks!
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31 Jan 2011, 4:49 pm

I'm really sorry to hear about that. I wish her and you the best.



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31 Jan 2011, 4:56 pm

I can understand that this situation is quite difficult for you, just-me, but at least you can both prepare yourselves for saying that final goodbye. My grandfather went through a prolonged illness before he died, but once we knew something was wrong with him, he was unconscious and he never woke up again. There never was a chance to talk about so many things that we would more than likely have talked about to him if he had been conscious at least some of the time. A lot of things were left unsaid and there is so much that we just don't know.

I hope you can use the time remaining to your mother to talk to her and to work things out. I hope you will not be left behind wondering how much of this person you never really discovered. I hope that she will find some peace and joy in the time left to her. Disneyland would certainly be great, but if that does not work out there is still so many small things you can do for her and to prepare both of you for the unevitable. I hope you will find the strength to make it through all this, for both your sakes.


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31 Jan 2011, 5:01 pm

I'm very new to this forum so this is the first time I've heard about your situation. I'm so very sorry that you and your mom are going through this. You have my prayers.



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31 Jan 2011, 5:28 pm

:( im sorry to hear this. Be strong for your mom & yourself.



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31 Jan 2011, 5:58 pm

I'm on my way to the hospital to see my mom. thank you for your prayers!



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31 Jan 2011, 6:29 pm

I'm really sorry.

I hope your family situation with other members of your family is not as hard on you as it was - it can't be easy to deal with all that and a sick mother.

I hope she gets well soon.



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31 Jan 2011, 6:35 pm

I can relate to your situation. My stepfather is currently dying. He has cancer of the blood. He hasn't had a bone marrow transplant yet so he may only live a year or two. I'll wish your mother luck, and hopefully she'll get good enough to come home. :)

Remember to tell her you love her when she does. :D



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31 Jan 2011, 7:02 pm

Sorry to hear that. Hope she recovers.



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31 Jan 2011, 7:03 pm

Sorry to hear about your mother, and yes, will pray. Sorry to hear about your father also, Jonsi.



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31 Jan 2011, 7:08 pm

sorry, stepfather



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31 Jan 2011, 8:40 pm

I'm sorry. Be gentle on yourself. If you are anything like me, you are going to spend a fair amount of this year being stupid and slow and indecisive. That is grief.



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01 Feb 2011, 12:07 am

I'm sorry to hear that. :cry:


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01 Feb 2011, 12:20 am

lelia wrote:
I'm sorry. Be gentle on yourself. If you are anything like me, you are going to spend a fair amount of this year being stupid and slow and indecisive. That is grief.

+1

My prayers are definitely with you. Also I think you're outlook is in the right place - ie. focusing on your own emotions and reaction to what's happening and hoping for the best. It seems like in general this is something of a rite of passage that hits everyone in their lives, the only way you end up resolved of it is by either dying young or having truly awful parents which is far from ideal in its own way.

My best advice as well when dealing with depression, grief or anything like that - stay as busy as you can. Don't run from your emotions but by the same token you may not want to let yourself wallow in them very often either. Like any feeling, any life event it works its way in, it can reverberate for a long time, and that's a given - there's really no other way about it.



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01 Feb 2011, 4:54 pm

thank you for you kind words and support. thank you for praying as well.

She is expected to be discharged from the ICU by the end of this week to a nursing home type facility where she will spend about 2 weeks regaining her strength. from there she will be discharged home where we will get her set up with hospice care.

if she is able we will probably go to Disney world and on a Disney cruise. I believe in the after life so i know she will be going to a better place when she is gone.



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01 Feb 2011, 7:06 pm

Just-me, you could try to contact disney in advance and advise them of your situation. I may dislike how disney treats their employees but I do admire how well they treat special requests of this nature.