How do you cope with being so alone?

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No kidding. You have people that are [apparently] interested in getting to know you better. Have you actually TOLD them about your condition instead of moping in a corner? Recommended some literature to them so they have an idea of what you go through?

I'm not sure if you read my reply to the above Major G, perhaps you should go back and do that.

They all know about my condition. They either flat out don't believe me or can't be bothered taking the time to understand it, as evidenced by the fact that I never get close to any of them and they're quite often embarassed or annoyed with me.

I've done nothing BUT try and if I was moping I wouldn't be here asking for advice on a different angle to try.

Frankly I'm a little surprised by this kind of response, isn't this supposed to be "The Haven"?

Brundisium, I think I know what you mean. You have people around you but you don't feel a true bond with any of them. Yes, they are interested in you, but not in a way that you feel a real connection. They know you as a character, but not "the real you."

This is how I feel. It's just the way I am, and there's no easy fix. I have times when I'm "on" and times when I'm "off." When I want attention, no one's there to listen. When I have somebody's interest, I can't find the right words. Just missed connections, over and over.

The responses here do not help me either. I do not need to practice conversation skills. I do not need to educate friends about my difficulties. I do not need to find a hobby. I do want to connect with others, and I know that I can, I just need circumstances to go my way.

It's terribly frustrating. I'm sorry no one "gets" you and I wish I had advice that would help.

Alone in a crowd?

I also know what you mean about not really connecting with people. I've got no real advice for you however...

I disagree. I think your posts are sometimes insightful. They certainly are not spam however. Don't be so hard on yourself.

I thought he was joking.

Any how, I never feel alone when I'm on my own, only in the crowds. World of facts, ideas and any area of interest have proved to be much better companion than unstable, unpredictable, illogical and entropic world of human relations.

i cope with being alone, by the sure knowledge that the person staring back at me in the mirror will never disrespect me, will never take unfair advantage of me, will always smile at me and be nice to me, and keep me company as best he can.

I think people with AS have this desire to be "understood" by friends that neurotypical people do not have.

Our definition of friendship is different than neurotypicals. NTs don't have friends to be understood. They have friends more so for companionship.

Your situation probably isn't that much different than others in your group of friends.

Alone is strong, together is a +.

I obsess on my special interests, fantasise about various things or read and post on Wrong Planet.

I frequently feel a desperate need to talk to someone about my crush.

Do I do that too much? I know I go on about her all the time here, and sometimes I get worried people might be exasperated with me. But otherwise I feel awful, not being with her. I feel much better at school, simply because there is always the possibility of walking past her or making eye contact with her. Whoops, here I go again...

+1

I've never known any different. It must be fun, being normal, because the whole world understands you. I've never had that privilege, at it does suck sometimes.

i run away to my own little world. hahah

i run away to my own little world. hahah

i run away to my own little world. hahah

He runs away to his own little world hahah

I guess he does. I have cats to pull me back into this reality.