Guilt

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Hey Everyone,

I have been feeling depressed and now guilty. I have been feeling depressed because of my life situation. I've got a fiancee whom I've been with for 2 and a half years now, she is studying at university in Thailand (She lives there) and she has almost finished. The problem is being able to live together here in Australia, but I don't have a permanent job at the moment which could support both her and I, hence why I have been feeling depressed.

Last night, I went to the pub by myself and afterwards (around 3 am) I went to a brothel, I didn't go there just because I was drunk but also because I was depressed (and still am). I told my fiancee and obviously she was very hurt by what I did. I'm at a loss, has anyone got advice? it would be very much appreciated, thanks.

is she still your fiance?

Yes, but it does not help how I feel. I just wish I was with her. She is my first girlfriend/fiancee that I've had.

Wow, lucky guy. She's a keeper.

Don't drink if you're feeling depressed. It probably won't help, and if it does it'll just lead to alcoholism.

Try doing something constructive, like looking for a permanent job. It, hopefully, will help with your depression as you are trying to resolve something that is affecting it and if your out job hunting, it won't give you much time to go out and get pissed.

I have already been looking for a permanent job, it's not easy. I live in a small country town where there is not much on offer. Sometimes I think it's hopeless.

In my mind, if you're really going to make it work, and you really do want to make it work (and it would appear that you do!) then you need to make ends meet any possible way before you feel too depressed to do anything about it.

First, you could try calling family members and asking them for advice. I only say this because they may know you better than we do because you've only just posted. They may know your situation well. Call friends too. Call your fiancé.

If you need to get a better job, are there better jobs in a different town? Can you move? Because if you need to move, believe me, you will find a way, so that you keep your fiancé. There must be other solutions - you just have to find them. It is not hopeless.

It is not good that you went to a brothel, but it is very very good that you told her about it.

Thanks for your help people. Everything is okay now.



Thanks again