Can't stop obsessing about this...

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This may be a long post, but I think a full description is necessary for you to get the picture. A few months ago, I moved into this new development. As I would come and go, I sort of hoped to meet the other people who lived here already. One day, a guy came up to me and introduced himself. He told me which house he lived in, and then pointed out the house of his girlfriend. We chatted a few moments, and he also introduced his dog, which he said was very sick with cancer. A few days later, I saw him and the dog. I noticed that the dog seemed better, and since I love animals, I asked if there had been an improvement. He told me that they'd taken the dog to an acupuncturist, and that the tumor had shrunk, and that the dog was feeling much better. I was feeling in one of my rare moods to chat, so I shared that I'd had good experiences with an acupuncturist, too, with my chronic headaches. We must have chatted for about 5 minutes. Anyway, a few days later, I met his girlfriend, and she was equally friendly. The weird thing that happened next, was that a few days later, this girl comes to my door, and asks if Jake is in here. Since I'm awful with names, I had no idea who she was talking about. (Turns out this was the guy I'd chatted with.) So I said, "Who's Jake?" Right after I asked, I guessed who she meant. So, the thought that crossed my mind, was that she thought I was entertaining this other girl's boyfriend. I felt insulted and annoyed, but only said, "No, just me. I think he lives over there". Then, she introduced herself and said she was good friends with Jake's girlfriend, and that she was subletting the manager's unit while he was away. I didn't know what to make of this whole interaction, and felt that she had been trying to start some trouble, by implying that I would have Jake in my house when he'd clearly said that he had a girlfriend. Believe it or not, I still get upset, and wish I'd come right out and said Why would Jake be in here? Or, what are you trying to say? But I've had so many bad experiences with misunderstandings, and women accusing me of chasing their boyfriends (when I wasn't) that I guess that I decided to play dumb, and hope it woudn't escalate, if that what was going on. Anyway, I find myself reliving it over and over again, and getting upset. Worse, after that I started to imagine that Jake and his girlfriend were not as friendly as before. Since I can't accurately read social cues, I am free to get paranoid and imagine things. Help!

Don't make too much of it. It seems that she might have though that Jake may have been over there since she may have seen you two talking. You are also new there and Jake seems like a friendly guy. So he might have dropped by to say hi or what not. She could have also seen you talking to Jake's girlfriend as well. Maybe the both of them could have been over talking to you as far as she knows. You did nothing wrong and it really does not look like she is trying to stir up trouble.

So all is good

I guess it was because she said that she was best friends with Jake's girlfriend, so I supposed that she was saying she was looking out for her friend. And I am really good at reading into things, I felt like I was hearing her say: I've got friends and you're new here and don't have any friends, so if I accuse you of inappropriate behavior, they will all back me up. Crazy, huh? But its happened so manytimes before...

Yeah, don't look into things so much. You would notice is someone was accusing you of that. They would be yelling and trying to break down your door and kill you