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I really don't know where to turn.

I've been married for 7 months, living together isnt going to well, we argue too much, and it ends up overwhelming me. He has a high sex drive, I have a low one. I like to be alone 95% of the time, she is clingy and needy. I have no way out. I can't get a divorce, I still love the guy to death. I just can't be around him all the time. I need my space. I'm antisocial.

I've actually signed myself into a psych ward just to get away from him for a bit. I feel like the only way out is to kill myself. I've been trying to not think that but its taking over my thoughts.
Should I sign myself back into the psych ward??

I think you should both seriously discuss couples counciling with someone with experience with AS/NT couples. There may be no way you can live together if you both do not learn how to compromise and work with each others needs and limitations.

I've learned the hard way - love alone in not enough. Being in a committed relationship takes work. It is almost natural or organic - everyone has to work at it to make it successful. The first place to start is with communication. Killing yourself seems a bit extreme. I know the rospect of tackling an issue this huge seems overwhelming but - dig deep. If you feel your relationship is something worth keeping but with some changes - then fight for that. If it turns out you can't handle the demands of a relationship, a divirce isn't the end of the world... many people divorce but remain friends. You have options.

It sounds as if you are being extraordinarily hard on yourself. Be kind to yourself first and foremost. You deserve that.

Good luck sweetie. Wishing you healing and best wishes.

Take down these false assertions. What kind of Love requires hiatis in psych wards? You have choices you are denying yourself. Your life is too precious not to take responcibility for it. Really, your life is worth making hard changes to preserve it.