"He can't have aspergers. He's too social."

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I don’t know. I’m a guy and I used to be extremely sensitive except I would mostly just get angry. When someone offended me I used to think angry thoughts towards them all day and them at night I’d lie awake in my bed and think angry thoughts towards them until it got very late. At one point in time I used to get sad because of my sensitivity, but it later became converted to anger. I guess I’m still pretty sensitive and I contemplate suicide every once in a while, not because of other people’s perspectives of me, but because of dissatisfaction with my life. I wouldn’t recommend getting angry like I did. Getting that angry for a long period of time isn’t a very good feeling. From my perspective it’s probably worse than being sad.

Thanks for writing this. It was a pretty accurate description of my experiences when I told my Mum "I've been reading about this thing called Asperger's on the Internet, and I think I might have it."

Maybe your mother has AS, too. She seems not very empathic and sometimes AS is confused with ADHD.

Please don't take offense, because none is intended, but I think that your mum would say that half of us on here at the very least aren't AS and are in fact "Normal" (whatever that is), and that includes people like me who have a diagnosis.

On the other hand, one of my friends has ADHD, and his mother is constantly going on about his lack of capabilities as an Adult and that he'll never be able to function outside the home, or get married (or get a date for that matter) and she's always winding him up just to tell him to calm down and then telling me that she finds that fun.

So where are the normal mothers? Mine's not normal that's for sure (she's AS and has Tourette's and Alzheimer's - she's nearly 70) and can't really deal with the fact that at least 3 of her 6 children are on the Autism Spectrum...

Retail sales/Customer service/Food service:

Customer comes to shop specializing in XYZ.
Customer wants to talk about XYZ.
Server/Salesperson talks about XYZ.
Customer buys XYZ.
Server/Salesperson accepts payment and says "Have a nice day"

Simple formula. One topic. XYZ. And Mr.Aspie probably knows more about it than Mr.Nt. by day 2.
So dealing with customers at XYZ store is entirely possible -
Is vastly easier than dealing with small talk or unknown/random topics.

(Dealing with co-workers is where trouble is much more likely to happen.)

(I've gotten that "sales so cant be" arguement too. It's an idiot arguement. Sorry mom, I'm opinionated.)

Do you think getting a diagnosis would give you the confidence you need with your mom? Perhaps then you wouldn't be bothered so much by her attitude because you have some type of closure.