jackassery

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I just need to rant really quickly about something. BF is supposed to be home in 30 mins, and roommate just called and let me know we all got invited to dinner tonight and are apparently going. Roomie let me know AND called me to tell me what he was going to wear, and BF hasn't even responded to a text asking what was going on. I think stuff like this is so inconsiderate! If I'm going to meet new people I need time to prepare and to take a shower!! ! And it's like he just expects to get home to me looking perfect and ready to meet coworkers at the drop of a hat...I just want to slap him sometimes!
I just want to be prepared and not to embarrass him. This is his real-life job, it matters. You would think he would care whether or not I wanted to go, or at the very least that he'd want to give me time to get ready. I think he does things like this sometimes just to put me on the spot, as if to say, "if you were normal this wouldn't be a problem, come on, step up". Ugh.

Well screw that, i think it is he that needs to step as to say" i understand things are difficult and i'm here for you" and not be an asshat

You're right, you need to set boundaries and let him know that it's not acceptable to simply put you on the spot when you're sensitive to it. If he doesn't respect you or your boundaries, he isn't worth it.

how annoying and inconsiderate. i probably would not go. that roommate sounds pretty awesome though.

I ended up going...wasn't late, but I was the only female there. Twenty miners/mine engineers and me. And I had met three people at the table...it was indescribably awkward. I did a good job though! Ended up DDing home, so it's good I was there after all.