Therapist has given up on me

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People in general give up on me...and they probably should, so I can't blame them. Anyways to the OP is there any way you could get a different therapist, that is more willing to help you?

Usually when a therapist gives up on you it's because they've done all of the strategies that they can think of and you didn't work with them or didn't do your homework. A therapist can also give up on you if you're not willing to make any changes that they suggest. I'm surprised they just let you go though, usually they'll keep you around as long as you continue going to your scheduled sessions, they just wont do much else but listen to you and wait until you decide to make that change they want. Whether that change is a will to live, willing to make a change or accepting something.

Couple of things strike me

What a CRAPPY therapist.

The job of any person involved with trying to help others' mental health should be PRIMARILY: DON'T ADD MORE PROBLEMS ON TOP OF THE EXISTING ONES.

The fact that you said this: "she said...she doesn't know what to do with me" and "...it left me feeling hurt, as if I am a complete write-off..." tells me that this person is (a.) in the wrong profession and (b.) is idiotically without empathy at even the most basic level.

Get to a better educated, better qualified, more empathetic, more human, more intelligent, more logical therapist ASAP!

Get away from that silly, silly, silly person.

I've said this before on another thread here very recently: find a Jungian psychodynamic therapist who just reeks of intelligence and calmness the moment you sit down with him/her.

You do not want: a psychologist focussed on medicating and/or labelling you.
You do no want: a 'counsellor' who is merely trained in techniques for life, but lacks ANY deep understanding of the human psyche.

It's not you, it's her.

Proper, true, life-changing, mind-altering psychotherapy should happen at a regular time and place every week for a period of AT LEAST months, more often years.

It takes years to build trust and to whittle down your mind to the core things that need to be aired out.

Part of the process is just talking, until random memories or thoughts bubble up from the depths of your mind. Repetition happens often. It isn't always dark and heavy. It can be silly and fun. It is all of you, laid out on a metaphorical table, gradually, until you and your therapist can see it all, and put the pieces together in the right order.

I know how you feel. Eventually, every one of my therapy sessions eventually became 45 minutes of me talking with no input.

Is there a way you can connect with others in your area who have AS and who see therapists? You might get the names of some good ones from them. Perhaps, the local autism societies could redirect you.
Your experience with this person must have been a sad experience. Someone like that person should not work with those who seek help.
At our age, we had better not let "therapists" like that get us down, otherwise we could end up needing a lot more than a therapist can give. At times like this, I think of the people with whom I have interacted who are just the opposite of the offending person. This gives perspective.
Why don't you become an expert on AS, through books, the library, the internet, WP, etc.? Maybe you would make a good therapist, yourself.