Self-compassion - and getting better at it

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Good to hear it was helpful to you.

If I believed in reincarnation I'd like to come back as one of your cats. Sounds like they have a wonderful time! :)

Actually I wouldn't mind being my cat either, she gets well cared for too.

Tasty meat fridays

Comfy places in the sun, specially put there for her

Snuggles up to me at night...

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Ok..When we talk about how:

 "the simplicity of the understood complexity within the natural environment breeds solace by way of soothing our sensory feedback and thus relaxing our state of mind"

That rational and logically direct statement sounds just as mind-fucking as "The forest protects me" which tells of the direct emotive result to our practice. 

If I said that former sentence to somebody, even with it being completely understandable and rational, it will still require great amounts of critical thinking for them to process and analyze it, and then empathize with this feeling, if possible. So don't rain coals on yourself, even within a perfect entielt rational explanation as to the effects the natural environment has that is entirely ration/logical and none metaphysical, it still must be strategic in that you must gauge, "Now, I am attempting to explain this intimate and highly-highly complex concept to this person; How much care does this person have in understanding and want of understanding of what I am explainin to them?" 

If your gut says "They do not care" I do npt care what therapist tells you to the contrary, trust you gut; Only give them as much infornation as you know they are capable of handling with positive affect to your relation with that person after the attempt at explaining. I generally utilize vague comments like "oh, you know. Its like yoga, it is active meditation to walk around out there alone, get away from the world for a little bit", since that explains an emotional effect they can empathize with easily as neurotypicals, now, explaining cpgnitive processes beyond that? You should really think about if it is worth your efforts to explain them to the depth that they are (which is Deep!).

Actually these are two really good descriptions I really identify with. The first one is brilliant. It spot describes it though I don't think I could have come up with it.

I really enjoy walking among trees, it gives me exactly the solace you describe, and yes I feel more safe amongst trees than anywhere else - so 'the forest protects me' fits too.

However, I do get how saying this to a therapist or counsellor might cause several types of double take, although I'm increasingly finding a lot of people involved with mental health services and support seem to understand both the important of being out amongst nature and the value of varying meditative processes, so actually think some (at least) might get the above phrases without additional explanation. I do not know if this is a particularly a UK thing, or if I've just been lucky.

One of my favorite dedications I read on a park bench (which faces a lot of trees and nothing else) says
"For GSK
He really liked trees"

A cabin in the forest is my dream. By flowing water. I've read that flowing water is favored by most aspies, and I'm one of them.

The reason I don't go is I can't take my cats with me, so I wouldn't enjoy myself.

Thanks TalksToCats, happy I found your thread.

Sorry coming so late to your interesting thread.
I need self-compassion too. I read about it online?
A new book by somebody Neff? I try to find her.

Here is her homepage.
Self Compassion

"Dr. Kristin Neff is an Associate Professor in Human Development and Culture at the University of Texas at Austin"

I think she is familar with these people.
http://ccare.stanford.edu/
"The Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education"

Self-compassion being a special app of the more all inclusive ccare?

yes they use her as one of the presenters at conferences.
http://ccare.stanford.edu/content/scien ... istin-neff
http://ccare.stanford.edu/content/scien ... compassion

All this is very new to me. I have neither read her book nor
gone any course or really tried to follow the instructions but
I sure need to learn how to be more compassionate towards
not only myself but towards others too. I am way too aggressive.

Is it typical for some of us autists? We are known for to not look
others in the eyes in the way they expect. Well I even fail to look
myself in the eye in the mirror. I don't want to see the self hatred there.

Very embarrassing. But I seem to not know how to do anything about it.

So what does it say about me if my happy and safe place is neither happy nor safe, and I seem to vote myself the task of clearing out the unhappy and unsafe elements? A process that is never really resolved.