How do you deal with losing your special interest?

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I mean, when losing your special interest is beyond your control? I love my special interest with a certain bus company (I won't mention any names), I love writing stories about the drivers from this company, but I'm afraid I am losing them all and I don't know what to do and I don't know what to think.

I want to phone up the bus company and ask what's actually going on with all the driver's contracts lately, but I don't really want to make myself sound like a twit really, and anyway the landliners won't really know since they're not the ones who sort out all the contracts. I am becoming really good friends with a woman bus-driver and she is fond of me, and, in fact, I think she may be a possible Aspie, and I would really love to be friends with her more and maybe give her my number because I know she'll like that, if we get to see each other again. But she doesn't appear to be on it, and people keep saying she's thinking of leaving because she can't cope with all her contracts being all unpredictable, so I know she's going to leave before I get to see her again, which will be such a shame.

I'm scared to find out more to rest my mind, in case I might end up getting myself into trouble, like Gary McKinnon (I think that's what his name is) who unintentionally hacked into something to do with NASA when really he was just desperate to find out more about his special interest, causing no harm. I know I won't get into that much trouble just by ringing a bus company, but I still don't want to make an idiot of myself.
It's just not fair! Why does life do this to me? How do you handle losing your special interests? I'm already unhappy in myself, and my special interest in this bus company is what helps me emotionally get through life happily, so now I am losing my special interest and I don't know what to do any more.
I hate this country, I hate David Cameron running it, I want Labour back, because you just can't rely on anything any more, your job, you interests, anything!

I lost one of my special interests due to something outwith my control. How did I deal with it? Very very badly. In fact it accelerated the downward spiral I was already in which, which is now (just over a year later after losing that interest) is ending up with me being admitted as an inpatient into psychiatric hospital next week. My special interest was one of my main coping strategies, and I was already struggling with things before it was taken away so ... yeah...I failed to find any other coping strategy and this is where I ended up. It was the failure to adapt that was the problem, not the loss of the special interest itself. Sorry I can't give a happier ending to your question.

You can still write stories about your drivers even if you don't see them anymore. You can call the bus company and try to find out what is going on. You won't get into trouble for either of these things. I wouldn't blame the government and wish for a different one, because frankly they're all as bad as each other which is why I gave up on politics a long time ago.

It is heartbreaking to loose a special interest. Trying to share your grief with NT's is counterproductive. It happened to me. Very different to your circumstances but I lost the only thing that gave my life meaning from the age of 3 to 16 years.

I replaces a relatively healthy special interest with a destructive one. Please try to avoid this.

Eventually I realised that I had always had "subinterests" throughout my life even though they were overshadowed by my primary special interest. Over time I learned to focus on those and found new meaning and greater diversity so that if one interest was taken or destroyed then there was another in reserve.

I am so sorry and wish all the best for you.