Starting to think that Student Accommodation was a bad idea

Post Reply New Topic

I'm at university this year (I took several gap years) and I've moved out of my sister's house and into student accommodation. Not Halls just a standard house with other students, so it's not like I can talk to the student housing coordinator. So I'm 25 and because of my age am the lead tenant, that and the landlord liaises with me about the other tenants and I'm also the bill payer, (a lot of responsibility for someone with a diagnosis of AS but for the most part I handle it well) The problem is this one tenant who thinks that because her mother is a landlady and has money that must mean she is the lead tenant - regardless of the fact that her mother does not own this property.

This girl seriously is a nasty piece of work, she won't give me a chance to prove that I'm good for this house, she is always complaining about the landlord (even though I think that he tries really hard to do his best). She thinks that everything must be done her way because she is under the hospital for depression, has diabetes and is also on the spectrum. The only disability I've now accepted from her is the diabetes because I've seen her medication. I've never seen her medication for the depression and she says that her family only suspect her to be on the spectrum. She's a burlesque dancer and in the fetish society at the university and I've been depressed before and she does not act the way that I did when I was depressed, so i don't think that she has depression. She shouts at me and makes me feel like crap for all the autistic like things I do and then gets upset with me when I point out my diagnosis, more or less saying that she's on the spectrum too and she does not act like that so they can't be spectrum symptoms, and ironically these are getting upset when routines change, getting upset when I hear people talking about me because I've assumed that they're blaming me for everything to do with the particular situation and taking things too literally. I thought that those things were classic AS symptoms.

The other too girls I live with are fine, I never see one and the other was already my friend before we moved in. We found the place together and decided to live together because we're members of the same religion, but this girl is very naive and easily led (even I can see that) and my biggest issue with her is that she loves happy families more than i do and will try and discuss things with me after I've had a fight with the first girl. Don't get me wrong, I know this is a good thing but I never want to hear what she has to say, especially when she mentions how she thinks the first girl is really nice and we're lucky to have her. Quite often, I'll tell her that she's not being loyal or a good friend.

Is it normal for Aspies to have troubles in student accomodation like these or did I just end up moving in with the devil incarnate? My issues aren't to do with the change of moving in because I really think I was ready for this and I really do not want to move back into my sister's place and I've got to stay here until July anyway.

I cannot say as when I went to University, I never went into student accommidation. However the thought of being around other people constantly is not something I find appealing, worse so if I cannot choose those people.

I took the hit and rented a private flat, sometimes I feel I missed out on the experience, but overall what counts is succeeding in your degree, which you need to be able to concentrate on and work in an environment that suits you.