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I like to have a Facebook account to keep in touch with people but new years day is one of the worst days to go on Facebook because that's when you see all pictures of everyone's fun night out they had last night, and it just makes me feel like a pathetic loner even more.

What makes it worse is all the pictures I've seen on Facebook are of socially awkward/shy people that I know. If they're socially awkward and got a few noticeable Aspie traits, then how come they have found themselves a group of friends of their age and went out to a big party and wrote ''last night was the best!'' all over Facebook?

It's not fair. Not that I'm too bothered about parties, but it's seeing everyone else around me doing all these things that make me feel bad about myself. I just want to be an NT, with a group of mates, feel included, have social instincts, and be out socialising at parties without feeling bored or shy or socially phobic.

Why am I cursed with this AS s**t for? Why do I have to have a social disorder, of all disorders? If I had to be born with any disorder at all, why couldn't it have been one what doesn't make me unsociable and make me still able to socialise and make friends with my peers? WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !

It is not other people deserting me, it is me having such s**t social skills. I hate my f****d up brain what's missing the most important cells. Wish I could have something done to make me be able to socialise normally, without involving illegal drugs.

This is exactly why I so rarely log onto FB. I know the feeling very well.

I think it's just a matter of finding someone you get along with. All humans are different. All humans get better along with some than other. And I think this is even more true for. But still; there are other people like you, people that you will get along with just fine.

Also stop blaming yourself, you are trying your best. All you need is to find other people like you. They are hard to find, but once you find them you can start building your own circle of friends. At least that's my plan.

I feel the same here and all the people getting to events and I do not get one-and other things too.

I have noticed a similar thing with my Facebook- which is why I removed 400 'friends' and now I have about 220 people who are worth having as friends.

I think psychologists have referred to this as 'nice world syndrome' meaning that with Facebook you may get the impression that everybody is happy and going out places except for you.
(I didn't celebrate the New Year either
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I'm the same way. I check FB pretty frequently to keep in contact with a few people and get some information from a couple groups I belong to, but that's about it. I don't really have any photos of myself on there. There are some photos on my profile that have me in the background that other people have tagged or whatever it's called, but the only pic I've uploaded is about 4 years old.

I think that's the same reason I have bad luck on dating sites. I don't have any current pics as I don't do anything pic worthy. Sitting in my reclier watching TV isn't going to cut it.

This is also why I don't do Facebook. To me, enjoying such things isn't normal (meaning it isn't normal for me).

It's possible that some people pretend to enjoy such things more than they do in order to fit in, or that they are too drunk to care.

Look at it this way, be glad you didn't have their hangover this morning.

Happy New Year!

Agreed. except last night, two of my friends asked me to go out to one of their friend's party with them. After trying pretty hard to convince myself to go, I got too worked up and cancelled on them. Seriously felt so pathetic but it was too spontaneous and with too many unknowns for me to relax. Would it be utterly packed with strangers? Would I be forced to stay even if I was miserable or panicked because my ride was having a good time? Would my two friends have a great time socializing and drinking while I sit alone in the corner because I don't enjoy drinking? The truth of it is, it would have gone fine, I'm sure I would have had a great time actually getting out and if I'd absolutely forced myself to go, I would have realized all of my fear was for nothing and gotten a bit o' free therapy on the side. I'm pretty disappointed in myself right now. Not a great way to start the new year.

Facebook is an illusion I fight constantly. Everyone posts pictures of their most recent vacation, or parties they obviously enjoy, or their new job/promotion at work. If they are fit, they post pictures of themselves in scanty clothes. No one posts anything about any heartbreaks, or job/money troubles, or anything about how boring their lives are. It's a selection bias.

Asperger's Syndrome is not a "social disorder" per se even if social difficulties are part of the picture. Social disorders are another category. (If there are any experts reading this, please correct me if I am wrong.)

Asperger's Syndrome is a neurological disorder that affects the brain's wiring ie. deformations in the frontal lobes and dysfunctional base ganglia, cerebellum, and amygdala. Connections are poor between these parts of the brain. (Attwood, 2003)

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I hate Facebook. You can see my other thread here for that: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt191233.html

Employers use it to screen potential employees anyway.

I just have a few friends on FB, and the only one that posts regularly is an 18th Street Gang member from Los Angeles. So most of what I see on the FB wall is gang-related posts and photos.

After some deep meditation (actually, a few minutes after typing my previous post in this topic), I realized there is no logical reason for me to keep my Facebook profile. Deactivation, then.

Regarding the subject of this topic (which I have not adressed at all): no, I do not care when my friends post their socializing pictures. But I am a pretty weird guy to begin with: most of my Facebook photos were photoshopped pictures of myself. Besides, I mostly used Facebook to share videos of soundtracks from films, cartoons and video games. And Queen songs. Not to mention my really random writings on my ex-classmates' group.

P.S.: However, I can relate with your feelings: it really sucks to lack social skills. Somjetimes I feel really stupid because of my inability to have a normal conversation; it is a really basic skill that even children dominate better than me.

Meh, I have 844 Facebook friends. It was part of my 'learning to act NT' phase a few years ago before I knew what NT even was, ha...I decided that, if I replicated other people's Facebook pages by adding plenty of people I had in common or at least, could recognize in a crowd, I'd be perceived as a normal person. Unfortunately, the fact that I only have a dozen or so pictures kind of negated the effect, haha. Now, quite a few of my friends are fans of my old band and fellow atmospheric science fanatics so I'm pretty content with the list, even if I've never met 75% of them *sigh* It's funny though, I've been absolutely devoted to bodybuilding for over a year now and, relative to the ordinary person, am in exceptional physical shape, but I'd never post a picture of myself in anything less than a shirt. I still have a hard time taking my shirt off at a pool.

Well im glad i didnt wake up with a hang over. & on mine i dont realy like to have pic.s of my self. & most the people (ppl) i know in person. Although i am now accsepting freind reqeusts from ppl i dont know.& beleive me being in the 'in' croud isint as good as it seems. those arnt the type of ppl i would trust.& as for the other socaily akwerd ppl they NTs probably make fun of them behind there back.....I've seen other socaily akwerd ppl hang out with NTs also & i've noticed them makeing fun of them every time they turn there back.Now as far as socail skills just try to see what u & other ppl have in commin. Ask them questions on there faverite music,tv,movies,etc. or ask them who there faverite insperational ppl are,stuff like that.U just gotta find the right ppl & then if all goes well u can discuss deeper things with them. The mos important thing is do not try & be freinds with some one who judges you & always listen to your gut.Also observe alot. Watch how ppl act,talk,stand etc. Doing all these things worked 4 me & now i have a small group of trust worthy freinds.When i was younger i felt the exsact same way as u did but now i am just as good at socailising as an 'NT'( exsept im shy of strangers)But the first place to start is observing & waiting to act.& also finding genuine ppl (wich can be rather hard).U can tell if they are genuine real ppl if they are laid back,open minded & dont get pissed off at every lil thing u do or say.Pretty much i have found that if the person is actauly trust worthy it is way easyer to socailise. & dont be so hard on yourself...hope this helps. & sorry about the bad spelling & grammer.