Negative Energy?

Post Reply New Topic

After losing a person that I thought was a best friend, he mentioned that I give off negative energy. I don't know what this means. I joke around a lot anyways, so I don't see how it could be pessimism.

I even asked a few of my good friends about it and they agreed.

Can people tell that I have intense trust issues towards strangers? I am very kind towards those I trust.

My mentor says word phrasing and giving more information is possibly why...not sure what that means.

I've had similar issues. I've heard everything from "[I give] off bad vibes" to that I'm inherently negative (however, these comments did not come from close friends; they came from individuals that I did not "mesh" well with). I think the reason for this is that I am extremely realistic and I tend to be very blunt, which can be perceived as negative/pessimistic. That and I'm not entirely comfortable in social situations. I tend to over-divulge information, among other things. I also think it has something to do with my body language and the way I carry myself in public. I tend to look tense/out of place.

I think that if this person was really your friend, and really understood you, they would know that you're a trustworthy, nice person. My husband is my best friend and is one of the very few people that knows I'm not a negative/suspicious person simply because he KNOWS me and took the time to understand everything about my behavior. He even tries to help me be more relaxed and positive.

And on the subject of your mentor, it could just mean that the way you say things sounds one way when you mean it another way. I'm not sure either.

Anyway, just know someone relates. Hope this helped a tiny bit.

Seems like everything I have issues with...but I do well here. Maybe it's the aspergian way of communicating that is so different from how typical people interact. I am very defensive and cautious before I get to know someone closely due to my loyalty; not sure if that's true with you.