Difficulty parenting NT teen

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I've got Asperger's; my youngest daughter has autism as well. I know how she thinks, and she can figure me out pretty well too.

It's my 15 year old NT daughter that's the issue. Many people complain about the difficult in parenting children with autism. I have the reverse problem; I don't know how to parent a NT teen?

We fight not stop. I was mad at her today because she broke the $500 Ipod I bought for her last year; she punched me in the head, then I had a meltdown. I was driving her to her sports game, and while stopped in traffic on a bridge, I had the sudden impulse to get out of the car and jump off the bridge to my death.

I told her this afterwards and she said 'there's something wrong with you, get help'. I was mad that her sports practice was more important to her than respecting her father. She said 'get over it'.

Nothing I say to her seems to resonate. She dismisses my suggestions, and is completely different from how I was as a teen.

Anyone else out there parenting 'NT's' ??

I may not be a parent, but I do recognize that sharing any suicidal impulses you have with your children is an incredibly bad idea. Children need to be able to trust that their parents are both capable and of sound mind; you are responsible for both their welfare as well as your own.

On another note, it is important to know that even mentioning suicide to another person is often considered a form of emotional manipulation, particularly if it seemingly comes out of nowhere. If she thinks you are trying to manipulate her, it could help explain the snippy response.