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I've recently become aware that I'm an aspie. Im definitely ok with it. it explains a lot of things about my life.

in an email to a very, very, very trusted person,*read spiritual advisor* i revealed this new found knowledge. I also wrote how it may explain (but not excuse) some of my what have been considered odd behaviors & awkward interactions with others. further what it means to have a spiritual aspect to becoming aware of these traits in my life at this time.

not in a sense that we are 'chosen' but the challenge, and the rewards of awareness AS can bring.

anyhow, i revealed to this person that that my AS was recently made known to me. In turn, (for whatever reason) this person has been sharing my correspondences with others in their community. It was the way they informed me; below is an excerpt on how i have been informed.

'As a community we have been monitoring your emails and their content, and your phone messages as you send them.'

i noted that this email was cc'd to even a maintenance man at the place in reference.

I cant help but feel a bit violated as I am not threat, nor have i ever been a threat. Further, a letter written from an aspies safe place to a trusted person being shared, i felt was... out of bounds.

am i overreacting?

i could use a 2nd opinion.. a compassionate response is appreciated from anyone who may have had this happen to them.

thanks!

a spiritual adviser who shares what they've been trusted with is not worthy to be called a spiritual adviser. yes, you have been violated. once my 12-step sponsor did something similar to me. i was very careful what i shared after that. you should be, too.

WTF? That is bizarre. Definitely not acceptable behavior from an advisor.

WTF?

What if anything does that person have to gain by sharing your emails with others?

Maintenance men? What would maintenance men even have to do with any of this?

Very odd.

Hello.

I agree with the other posters; your adviser shouldn't have done that. I also thought the community's response was a bit weird, especially the use of the word "monitoring". It's possible that your adviser didn't know how to respond, and decided to reach out to the other members for advice. Do you think your letter could've been misinterpreted? Again, I don't agree with how your adviser handled this, but if you want to hear the reasoning/get closure, then talking to your adviser might be your best bet.

thanks to everyone who replied. compassionate responses are appreciated!

gracias.

@cathylynn thanks for revealing a bit of your journey. I always felt that laypersons even in 12 step groups are at the end of the day regular good people trying to help out. I am sorry they did that.

But something about placing my trust in the hands of a person who is the Abbot of a community that lives according to the Rule, I figured I had a 100% trust in them.

@ Beau. Point taken. Well said. Thank you for your voice here.

hmmmmmmm...

i frustratedly suspect the overall ignorance of others here. even if they are versed in sacred texts of my belief system. they have no clue what AS is, or how it is chromatic. for the sake of conversation... on a scale of 1-10, I'm around 4. I'm not a worst case scenario, but nor am i NT by anyone's stretch of the imagination.

my personality has always appeared odd. that's a given. but when i am in 'Someone Elses' House' I always abide by their rules aspie or not.

But in my email correspondences, I am much more free with my thoughts. Perhaps the recipient of my emails was freaked out. Maybe my way of writing was too aspie centered, and thus they couldn't tell my inflection & meaning in text versus a conversation in person.

Still, if there was a concern I WISH they had spoken to me by phone or mail, rather than printing out my emails and sharing out of some sort of..... concern.

regarding why they felt the need to share my correspondences with the maintenance man...

that part really makes me upset. the maintenance man at this particular place is somewhat of a go between between the folks of the cloth & volunteers. Go between or not, he has no business reading emails where I reveal my purest emotions to.

i will get over this. but man.... this takes it to a new level.

protect yourselves folks.