I feel like I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life.

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Has anyone else felt like they're never going to be happy? Like they're going to be alone for the rest of their life? I certainly do...

For the first time, I actually drank alcohol since people keep saying it makes you feel numb.. but instead it made me feel worse.... SO much worse.

I honestly feel like I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life..... I'm on SSI.. I can't work.. I can't make or keep friends, keep a job, keep a relationship, anything really. I've been solitary for the past 5 years of my life and I honestly don't think I can do it anymore. Suicide always sounds like a viable option... but I could never do that, as I am too scared to do such a thing in the first place.

It's times like last night that make me really wonder what the point of anything is. My hobbies are obsolete.. my obsessions can't keep me focused anymore. I kind of always just wanted a family.. whether it's just one people or more. Heck, I'd even take a girlfriend. I just want somebody. However, I never can seem to do that. I try to go out and all I do is freak out or make everyone feel uncomfortable. I don't want to be one of those people who depend on others, but that's how I've always been.

Every romantic relationship I've had has ended in failure. The worst part is that I've never had a proper breakup or a proper end. It's always cheating or complete abandonment in totality.

I honestly feel so hopeless... especially when my relationships with others fail one right after another. I do have "friends" that I've met along the way. The problem is none of them talk to me.. and when I try to talk to them? It's just uninterested banter, the typical "How are you?" "Hi." "I'm sorry." etc etc. My parents don't even seem to want anything to do with me.. they haven't spoken to me in months and have no interest in doing so. I haven't done anything wrong, I just don't understand why I have so much trouble with people. I just have a heavy feeling I am going to be alone for the rest of my life, and I honestly don't know what to do about it anymore. Believe me.. I've tried so hard the past few years, but nothing is getting better. I just feel like nothing is worth it anymore. All I do is cry, feel depressed, and feel sick to my stomach... what a pathetic way of living. I can't believe it has gotten to this point.

I am a 24 year old male.. life and social activity shouldn't be this difficult. I wouldn't wish this upon my worst enemy.

I apologize for my whining.. I just don't know about anything anymore at this point.

I know the feeling, but things can't really be that bad. I know I feel that way but they aren't as bad as I think they are. You probably are underestimating yourself, or need to find groups to make friends in. People probably care more than you think they do. Just share a little more at a time.

Also, you probably at least need to have a therapist. There are more serious inpatient and outpatient programs at hospitals if you need more structure or therapy once a week just won't be enough for you. At least you had a relationship at some point, I can't say that I have. Being passed up is painful. Maybe its all about finding the right person, and at least be happy to be people's friends.

If all the positive talk in the world isn't going to help, then also consider psychiatry. The brain has amazing abilities to cope, but most of the time I need a leg up on things too.

I'm sorry for you loneliness.
All of the sudden, one day you will meet someone. It just takes one person to make your life a lot more full.

I get lonely often too. I can't seem to figure out how to talk to people as a friend. I seem to do passably well at most other relationships. I'm usually pretty happy. I have a job I enjoy most of the time. But I do feel like I can't seem to attach to people.

Happiness is a stranger of an emotion to me. I recognize that I hardly know it, and I could make myself miserable trying with fail to obtain the secrets of it's hidden location in my life like I used to. I found that if I accept that I don't exactly know what happiness is beyond a chemical reaction in the brain, let alone how to obtain a constant supply of it, and don't try to frantically search for it because others around me have said that I should know happiness with a strong familiarity, I find peace. I trust peace more than I trust happiness... Peace is more stable, calm, patient, and abundantly there regardless of whether weathering good times or bad times.

However, yes, I can often wonder if I'll ever have another companionable conversation in this lifetime... let alone friendship or romance. I connect with so few people it almost seems a misfortunate impossibility as if I should be waking up from a rather difficult dream sometime soon. Though, I assume like all other good things that have came into my life so far, companionship will come in time regardless if I worry myself ill about it's current absence in my life or I worry not.

Yes, I've felt that way many times. I won't regurgitate my story here.

You're still relatively young - my recommendation: don't avoid the problems in hope of solving them later. If you can't solve them on your own get as much help as you can (psychotherapy + meds + working out a lot; also hobbies, support groups, social skill training..whatever you can get). Don't procrastinate on these things, don't base your decisions on fear, don't listen to the voice telling yourself it's not so bad and you don't really need it, don't avoid treatment because you're worried about side-effects. If you do that, you might not end up where I am now.

That will make two of us then.

I'll always be alone. I've come to accept this. I don't have a real sex drive any more, so there's very little point in it anyway. Better to think of other things.

Other people are too much like hard work.

A lot of people in this world are all alone.

That's pretty funny when you think about it.

Each person an island of sorrow in a sea of regrets.

I feel like that a lot of the time. I'm pretty sure I'll be alone for the rest of my life, but at the moment I have other problems that are taking up so much of my energy and time that I haven't thought about it that much lately. I try to stay positive and encourage others, but sometimes I can't even be bothered because I think what's the point? That usually happens when I'm feeling really miserable myself and don't have the energy to be optimistic, but I do think there's always hope and sometimes really great things happen and good people come your way when you least expect it. I've found it helpful to just concentrate on my interests and doing things that give me a sense of meaning or progress. And trying to improve my life in any other ways I can.

If you've never been to therapy, it's worth trying. It could give you other things to think about and help end or at least reduce the constant cycle of negative thoughts.

I really hope you start feeling better!