my contributions do not matter because I'm not a real person

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I'm so sorry to hear of anyone going through this, Betzalel. What they did feels so unjust, and now to have been taken to Psyche for a week -- this is just awful.

I hope there is someone in your life who can give you emotional support or even practical guidance with the paperwork. This is all a really rough time for you. It will all pass in the end but that's no help right now when it's all painful. There is some good advice here, including the question about whether maybe this can possibly be a wrongful termination depending of course on what the contract was. I hope things get better for you.

I feel for you Betzalel. I'm also a software developer and it felt like your first post could have been written by me. I've always felt disconnected and like I'm not a real person. At work everyone else seems to be friends with eachother and do things outside work together and I'm just some troll who does work for them to profit from and take credit for.

Sorry to hear about your recent events. I hope you get back on your feet and your animals are okay.

Of course we care. We can't see you, of course. But we care about your well-being because we IDENTIFY with you.

It's not the correct default assumption to believe that "nobody cares." It's just not true.

As for the taxes, if you're in the US, the IRS would assist with your taxes for free (unless, of course, you don't want to speak to the IRS, which is most understandable).

I wish I could provide you with that ladder so you could climb out of your depression.

I, too, feel like a "fake person" a lot of the time. People usually ignore me, and that really hurts. I have two different volunteer positions, one at the local library, and one at an organization for people with autism-spectrum disorders, and when I'm volunteering, I'm usually told what to do, and then ignored the rest of the time. All the while, all of the staff members are talking to each other, laughing, and generally being their normal NT selves. I feel like I'm just not valued at either of those places, and volunteering tends to make me feel depressed and lonely most days. But I don't have the courage and determination to try to find some better volunteer positions, so I'm stuck.

Sorry to complain so much. I guess my point is that I can identify.

Thank you to the last few guys that at least see where I'm coming from. My animals are OK but I'm very much not OK and probably wont be for a long time to come if ever. I only got to see a therapist for the first time since being in the hospital on friday. and it seems like she really doesn't give a s**t like all of the others. I really HATE the question they all give me when I describe the abuse I suffered for most of my life "why do you think they treated you that way?"

Like I deserved to be treated like s**t. They are probably right that I do since I really believe that humans can sense people that just weren't born right and have subconscious programming to hurt those "defective" people even if they themselves can't quite put a finger on why they are doing it.

I just got frustrated and said "I don't know maybe I have the mark of cain on my forehead or something!"

I'm hoping anger management also doesn't turn out to be a big crock of s**t. I also will not be able to get my medication for a week since they scheduled the psychiatrist a week after my meds ran out and there's pretty much nothing I can do to get the extra pills to make it to the Drs appointment on the 23rd other than just showing up and bitching until someone does something about it. (If they do anything at all)

I'm basically a big ball of scar tissue both from being born with a brain that doesn't work right, several nasty head injuries during my childhood, and a f**k ton of abuse poured out on me liberally all of my life. I've been diagnosed with PTSD and honestly I can't see any of this just getting better, ever. I might be able to hopefully function better with the right meds, etc. but I feel like an amputee being told to get well soon.

Wow! I am dumbfounded as to what advice to offer you. One thing I know is that often the way out is a path I never knew was there. In the meantime, hold on. What about this Obamacare? I thought you guys had access to health care now (public health is better than nothing, eh?)
If you can be labelled disabled, you may have access to prescription coverage. Psychiatric health care professionals are hapless. Don't bother trying to validate yourself with their judgements, just take the diagnosis, whatever it is and go with it. Usually they go either with depression or anxiety. It doesn't matter, they don't define you.
With regard to your former employer, it totally sucks, but I think exploitation is the way of capitalism.
*hugs*

Don't even get me started on Obamacare. All they did was give more power to the insurance companies and mandate that you buy health insurance even if you can't afford to buy health insurance. I can't afford it so I'm still pretty much f****d five ways from Sunday. If you have no money in this country everyone expects you to just do the right thing and kill yourself. You are worse than scum if you don't make at least 6 figures. and if you are unemployed you don't even exist as far as most people are concerned.

If I was black or an illegal alien I'm sure I would have no problems but try being a white male with problems and they give you BS about checking your privilege. I'm really not feeling much of that right now at all.

Obamacare is a bad compromise between purely "capitalist" health care and truly national health insurance.

Who cares what most people value. Most people are idiots. It's your life - do what you want with it. Maybe you have to expect only contract work. It's going that way in Canada. Nobody wants to pay full time benefits. But it's still a way of earning money.