Why keep holding on?

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To sly, I've re-done your programming; 'Take a Chance!'

https://youtu.be/7X3jMO1HqHk?list=PLVho ... f-p&t=1038

Got new job but still worthless as a mate
Just as I thought would happen

If I'm not even allowed to talk to women til I meet all those requirements how am I suppose to feel or build confidence in myself when always being told I'm worthless trash that should jus do women a favor and die

For me, anyone be they male or female that says/has the attitude that you are not good enough to be in my company unless you meet 'xyz' criteria, is not trying to see the person, I don't know if those types are even capable of independent/original thoughts.

You are a nice person Sly, but I think you have to realise that for yourself.

I know I'm nice , kind, funny, caring and loyal. But as many on here have said those are things expected of everyone and doesn't make one worthy of dating alone , one has to have good income and be exciting.

I come from a poor family in a poor city I've tried and tried I went to college got a degree went into debt to do it that failed so I tried to do security because it pays more then min wage but I lack the experience and there's millions of ex military getting out and going into security so they prefer them. So I looked into retail again and was able to get a job but as they say it's not a real job and doesn't count. So I think I'll just quit there's no point .

I agree people today are more concerned with status and income of being in a relationship then actually connecting with another person , probably why divorce is so high during an economic depression where millions of men lost their jobs houses and cars.

Thanks for saying I'm nice, I'm often told I'd make a good by based on my personality caring, loyalty, and romantic traits. Sadly none of that matters unless I make enough money

Men are not the only ones to lose their jobs cars and houses in the economic downturn, and it is a well established fact that financial difficulty puts strain on even the most solid relationships.

Who is the 'they?' And what is so fantastic about them that they get to judge your worth as a human being?


Says who? These people whose opinions you hold in such esteem seem to be superbly successful, or deluded? They couldn't just be regular folk like you or I.

I meant it, you stand out on WP because of those traits.

Never said there wasn't but men won't leave their wife if she loses her job.

Mostly women and conservative men. The women are women and that's all that that makes them worth more and the men are the I worked hard and got lucky and made it rich so your just lazy.

And boo. On here it's mainly that troll lady

Women on dating sites and Facebook.

You don't think I'm Misogynist

Yes, sadly that does happen Sly, it is real and please don't tell me that it's not, some men are with women because they will supply a steady income for the lifetime of their career. Some people fill tanks and some people empty them.

Women aren't worth more just cuz they are women, nice people are worth more because they are nice people, be their gender male or female.
If money is a person's master then they will miss out on many of the real/authentic aspects of life, which makes their views quite empty and lacking depth. Definitely not the kind of person that you would want to be married to.

No Sly, you are not a misogynist, you are a lover of women, not a hater.

I don't think the regular female WP'rs give you a hard time, not like new female members seem to.

Mostly ever hear about men being left. Thou see bunch of women say they won't date a guy who doesn't make more then them because they don't want him mooching off them similar reason for not dating a guy who doesn't drive. Yet seems fine if the roles are reversed 0.o seems unlikely that two people in a relationship will ever make the same income unless they both make min wage. So it's ok for guy to make more but not if the woman makes more 0.o I don't get it

Seems a lot of women think they worth more for being a woman why else feel legit to demand a guy earn more then them, unless they think they worth more then him so he has to make up for it with money.


I agree, I think people are too obsessed with money and objects. I mean I like my tech it helps with my adhd but I'd rather be in a relationship with a girl I love and loves me then have all my gadgets. I'm odd though like I never want to travel. I'm content with living my whole life in the same city I was born. Seems most women and men though I mostly look at women's profiles all want to travel or already do travel. So they expect s man who can afford to do so. One lady said guy has to be able to pay for vacations to Europe or Hawaii in order to be with her. I don't want to go to those places yet I seem to be expected to be able to pay for them to be deemed love able

Just wish women could love me back

I'd spend a lot of my time and money trying to make them happy and live a good life.

I think the belief that he must earn more is a very traditional one and not in sync with equal ways of being, yet if a couple want to start a family one of them must be able to maintain a steady income capable of supporting mum dad and baby, that is the practical reality.

Women/men/people that want 'stuff' are not looking for love, they are seeking experiences/things to acquire.

Don't waste your good qualities on people like that, they do not understand your attributes, and can't appreciate them as a result. If you are to feel any emotion because of them, let it be pity!

Speaking from personal experience, I have been there.

I have felt worthless and that my life would amount to nothing and no one would want me or to be around me and I would be forever alone.

I was working full time for nothing, all my money was gone on just surviving and paying child support, lots of debt, etc.

I felt meaningless and pointless.

I finally hit rock bottom and decided I had nothing to lose so I would put all my efforts into changing what I could to become happy and get what I wanted and needed out of life. I also realized that the few in my life were toxic, so I cut them out. This was by no means easy, I felt worthless but knew it was self destructive. I decided I could fake confidence as at rock bottom I had nothing to lose, so I did. I was out of my comfort zone, but it got easier, and people started to view me differently, I started getting invited out (by old friends) and I made the massive effort to make an appearance at the very least as they could be an overload at times, things were getting better. Then I met a girl and I was instantly hooked, and the feelings only got more intense as we chatted. My inner self told me I was setting myself up for a big fall as I had alot of baggage and who would want to take it on? but she did. I was honest, and she appreciated my honesty and we have been together since.

I can honestly say I am now the happiest I have been in my life, things are still difficult with money, but we get by and things will continue to improve, but to start it all, I had to pick myself up and pretty much fake it to make it. My girlfriend knows the real me and thats who she fell in love with but I needed the initial confidence to feel worthy of a relationship.

Someone will love you, some day soon. You just gotta find the One...

How?

Don't overthink it! It just happens sometimes. It was even more difficult for me. Once I realized that I was gay and that dating girls wasn't working for me, I continued to have difficulty but eventually I met the one who would be special to me and my soul mate. I didn't plan it that way but we had a mutual attraction. He stayed with me through very bad times as well as good ones because he's not concerned about money or status either.

You get many girls like that too and just because you've had unlucky experiences doesn't mean you won't strike it lucky and meet a girl who loves you for who you are and hasn't got dollar signs in her eyes.

I don't take to women and women rarely approach men. So I doubt it. I read all these posts on here of men with women touching them or flirting with them and it's never happen to me, women have never showed any interest in me