Anyone else get angry with people really easily?

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I keep getting angry at people on here all the time when they criticise me or disagree with me. It really aggrivates me, I can't stand it. And even though I know I should ignore them or respond more maturely, I don't, I just call them a stupid c**t or tell them to f**k off. Which doesn't do help. Although it does make me feel better. But I know I shouldn't though. By the way, I'm not referring to anyone in particular, I was thinking of a few separate examples, it's just become more of a problem lately. I think it's because I never talk to people IRL. So I get frustrated and then use the internet to deal with it. It's annoying me now though. Even people I've never spoken to before are getting to me now just by saying one thing or disagreeing with what I say. Until recently I'd been better at forgiving things like this and moving on, but now if I see the username of anyone who's made me angry, that just makes me worse. I feel really bad and I wish I was back at university instead of sitting around at home all day. I'm sick of being on my own all the time with nothing to do.
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I dunno.
I don't want advice btw. There's nothing anyone can say to fix it because I know what I should do. I just need to find a way to do it.
Nevermind.
It's making me feel ill.

You weren't like that when you first came on here. It seems like it is only recently that you have become more aggressive and vitriolic about things on here. Just try and be yourself and not worry about blending in or being popular on here.

I agree I wasn't like this when I first came here. I don't think it has anything to do with wanting to be popular, that's not really something I'm bothered about, although it could be to do with wanting to blend it. I do that in real life, but I wasn't sure about on here. To be honest I think it has something to do with me finishing university. I've become very isolated and I've lost my usual routine. So I keep getting really bad moodswings- it's when I get really low that I start getting aggressive with people and posting really stupid things that, when I read over them after, I don't actually agree with what I said. Whereas right now I efel fine, so I'm being my usual self I think.

I think it has something to do with me finishing university. I've become very isolated and I've lost my usual routine.

What I meant by that was that sometimes people unconciously try to blend in i.e. speak, act (or in this case post) in the same manner that everyone else does. As the aggression and lack of tolerance are fairly present on these boards, you may have subconciously picked up on them a bit.

Could you not continue with your studies over summer?

I mean my course doesn't finish until the end of June but I have already been planning my own independent studies for over the holidays (although I will have to fit it around whatever work I can find).

I know which units I've chosen for next year (assuming I definitely manage to do the ones I';ve chosen, but I should be able to). So I'm planning on getting some books over the summer and starting reading up on it etc. I've been to a museum today as well which made me feel better this morning. So I've been sticking with my history a bit. But without the normal structure and routine I had with lectures, it's difficult to motivate/organise myself.

It is good training though. I mean, there will come a point in your studies (should you take it far enough) where you won't have much direction and you will have to not only motivate yourself but also provide your own structure and routine and work out what you want to study and how to do it. I mean, even in a lot of undergrad degrees you often have an undergraduate dissertation or a reading course where you be expected to direct your own study. If you are so interested in history, you may even want to do a PhD or something one day and then you would have to conduct your own new research, never mind study.

I get annoyed really easily. Usually it happens when I'm doing something frustratingly difficult and there's a very annoying noise which won't stop.